All Females Cheat

Originally posted by jedimiller
Hi Sonya. So what do you think? Well, I think that when a woman looks at another man and gives him the look, she's already cheating. So in a way all woman cheat, but my ex never cheated on me, she assured me.

Is that the ooo he's hot look?

I don't know about anyone else, but I don't mind that much if a girlfriend of mine looks at another man.
If I tell her not to look, that would be the start of a control freak type of behaviour. In my opinion women don't like that. I think if one is confident enough to not worry if his girl looks at another man, his girl will like him for that.

I think ordering a girl not to look at other men, makes one appear self concious, controlling and needy, I don't think women like that.

Of course if the man does not like it women should have the respect to try not to do it much around him.

So as long as it's just a quick look and nothing more, I think it's ok. If a man does not like it, he should tell her he does not like it. But once it becomes and "order" like "don't do that again, dont you cheat on me" Then it becomes controlling.

Not saying you are controlling, just saying that looking at another man is not really cheating unless she acts on it.





[edit on 13-7-2008 by _Phoenix_]

Originally posted by _Phoenix_ If I tell her not to look, that would be the start of a control freak type of behaviour. In my opinion women don't like that. I think if one is confident enough to not worry if his girl looks at another man, his girl will like him for that.

Uhh..after all the “post your cutest pet” threads and many many other very fluffy and apologetic threads are you saying you are MALE?

Originally posted by Sonya610

Originally posted by _Phoenix_ If I tell her not to look, that would be the start of a control freak type of behaviour. In my opinion women don't like that. I think if one is confident enough to not worry if his girl looks at another man, his girl will like him for that.

Uhh..after all the “post your cutest pet” threads and many many other very fluffy and apologetic threads are you saying you are MALE?

Apologetic?

Yes I am male

Is that a problem?

So a person who cheats means running off with someone else (other than the significant other) and having an affair. I think cheating means lying to each other about staying in an unhealthy relationship that would not get better in the first place. ‘Trying to work out’ any differences and making up later with flowers and candies (for example) are symptoms for the denial of the truth that someone better is somewhere out there to fill in the void something(s) deficient in the current relationship. It's a two way street and both males and females cheat.

You know, I really have to spend more time here at BTS, and quit wasting all that effort in the ATS forums.

This place is really where it is all happening.

Really! I never knew!

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On Topic: Does pornography count as cheating? How about fantasy? How about BTS forums?

Originally posted by alienstar
Not one single one of them can ever be trusted.They all love to scam esp when your not knowing of it.CHEATERS!

I'm no fan of women, but I can't say I agree with your post here. I've found that most of them are much more likely to be committed to their relationships and to turn down sex they want just because they happen to be married or have a boyfriend or girlfriend or whatever.

I think the whole idea of "cheating" is idiotic anyway. If you insist on coupling up with somebody, the only way to guarantee they won't cheat on you is to let them sleep with anyone they want. There's no emotional committment.

Not all women cheat.
Not all men cheat.

All my girlfriends and my two fiancés did cheat on me.

But that is the problem with dating nice girls. Some of them are just to nice and hook everybody up.

Hopefully the female I am with now will be the one.

On another note…

I read somewhere that the rate of fathers who think that kid is really theirs but isn’t is like 2 - 4%

That’s not huge by any means but it really destroys some family trees.

Originally posted by Enrikez
All men cheat too.

Welcome to the planet earth. Enjoy your stay.

no they dont, trust me women are con artists and usually in the long run it makes them look really stupid.

Originally posted by amonkey
Not all women cheat.
Not all men cheat.

All my girlfriends and my two fiancés did cheat on me.

But that is the problem with dating nice girls. Some of them are just to nice and hook everybody up.

Hopefully the female I am with now will be the one.

On another note…

I read somewhere that the rate of fathers who think that kid is really theirs but isn’t is like 2 - 4%

That’s not huge by any means but it really destroys some family trees.

they always cheat what are you talking about. They might not cheat when your with them but you can always tell. but unless your with them all the time they are cheating.

I've never cheated on a relationship. Except in my mind.

Sometimes I feel that way myself. However, I do realize there are women out there who are not like that. They are rare to find however. The same goes for men. I don't see how someone can just go out giving up their bodies to people they don't love, and doing it behind someone's back they do love for that matter. There is no excuse for that. The main problem with most relationships these days are most people go for the looks, and not the person on the inside. Just because he or she is hot doesn't mean that is going to be a great long term relationship. If you want someone for the sex your worthless. People like that are wasting a good breath of fresh air. People do not think about STD's, unwanted pregnancies, and Aids/HIV.

When men or women do it, it hurts them in the long run later on down the road when they are lonely living with their secrets inside their heads, and regrets wishing they had the good guy/girl back that really loved them for who they were and took care of them. People like that will never have a real life and are wasting a good breath of fresh air.

We all have a choice. There is no excuse, no matter how drunk you were, high, or he/she came on to me and I couldn't help it. These are excuses for when you can't face reality. It's all in your mind. That's it.

Always remember, "What goes around comes around ten fold."

reply to post by jca2005


Right on Jca i could not say that betta myself

Originally posted by alienstar
Good questions of why i state this.Every female i been involved with cheated.I'm not stating all you cheat.Maybe i should have worded it better.Maybe i just have bad luck.

Or maybe you're the problem......

reply to post by jca2005

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On the other hand, though, if you aren't sexually attracted to them why are you having sex with them? You can always be friends....

Which brings us back to the undeniable truth that the only way to sustain a romantic relationship is to allow both parties to have sex with anyone they want to. If a relationship is based soley on sex it's doomed from the onset. Just ask that eHarmony dork. There's not one question in his computability test about sex. And he's a genius/

Originally posted by EverythingYouDespise
reply to post by jca2005

 

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On the other hand, though, if you aren't sexually attracted to them why are you having sex with them? You can always be friends....

Which brings us back to the undeniable truth that the only way to sustain a romantic relationship is to allow both parties to have sex with anyone they want to. If a relationship is based soley on sex it's doomed from the onset. Just ask that eHarmony dork. There's not one question in his computability test about sex. And he's a genius/

There is more to life than sex. Sex won't get you everything you want. It takes will power to do that. Sex won't get you that fancy car or house you have always wanted. It sure won't pay the bills.

I will say sex is great when two people really love one another. Yes attraction can be great. I can understand not going out with someone because they are largely overweight. That tells me and other people they are not properly taking care of themselves. And the relationship would probably not work as they would be a lazy slob. But that's not always true either.

If someone is not worried about looks then sex would obviously be ok to the two.

A romantic relationship is not letting both people in the relationship go out and have sex with other people. That is disgusting and worthless of both parties and they need to go their separate ways. Who knows what kind of STD one or both of them will bring back to one another.

Not every guy or girl is like that. They are just hard to find in today's dysfunctional societies.

People are not disciplined enough. And mainly involves bad parenting.

If you don't have both the sexual attractiveness or the love for one another then just quit wasting each other's time and move on.

[edit on 7/21/2008 by jca2005]

reply to post by alienstar


I don't know, let me ask my ex wife....

She says she will get back to you once she finnishes bankrupting her new husband.

I remember talking to a mate at the gym the other day about his wife cheating on him with another person at work. What I just could not understand was how could she break up a marriage and the heart of a 8 year old. Plus did I mention that this guy could get any women he wanted. So now his getting his thing on with a few models here and there and his ex wife is totally jealous of him. Why would you leave your man for a fat, bold work mate who doesn't have his own # together with his now exwife.

Anyways all my mates cheat and all cheat because they have had there hearts broken with women, who have either really damaged them in a relationship or cheated on them several times even when my mates forgave them. I won't let a woman walk all over me since I have been cheated on before. But I won't ever stoop to their level and be insecure with my self and my present relationship.

Love, sex, infatuation, they're all the same thing. Can you guys live with that?

reply to post by Half-Dead


that is a pretty dim view. I see love different to sex and infatuation is different altogether. Sure there are connections between each other but seeing it as the same thing I can't stand that.

Alienstar, 22 years ago, I was in the right place and the right time, and so was my Bride. We've been married coming up on 20 years, neither of us have cheated, and it's not going to happen. (how can you be so sure?? That's foolish!) Well, if/when you find the One, you might just know it. Neither of us were looking for a life partner when we found each other, and were platonic friends without a self-imposed linear schedule for several months before becoming intimate.

I'm a very lucky man. You can be fortunate too. First thing might be to replace your certainty that everyone cheats with a little bit of hope. Don't want to project a self-fullfilling prophecy, right? Good luck!