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originally posted by: Bigburgh
originally posted by: infolurker
a reply to: underwerks
There are 2 cures to this condition.
Time and finding another girl.
You're half right...
Time and Distance...
I had an Epiphany and found peace with myself. Single and perfectly HAPPY since 2005.
originally posted by: CriticalStinker
a reply to: underwerks
Time+booze+a rebound = you'll still need more time.
Look on the bright side, if you feel something it means you're not a robot or dead.
Maybe because you gave too much? 80/20..
Booze seems the best option at the moment until I'm out of whatever hellish stage I'm in right now.
originally posted by: CriticalStinker
a reply to: underwerks
Booze seems the best option at the moment until I'm out of whatever hellish stage I'm in right now.
Take it from me, that's a loan with interest.
You'll pay at some point. Give your self a day or two a week to check out and hit the sauce.
But the thing that will help the most is a routine.
originally posted by: Fools
originally posted by: underwerks
originally posted by: PhyllidaDavenport
Its a grieving process.....of which there are many stages
SHOCK & DENIAL
PAIN & GUILT
ANGER & BARGAINING
DEPRESSION REFLECTION, LONELINESS
THE UPWARD TURN
RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH
ACCEPTANCE & HOPE
Those are the currently accepted stages of grief. You can't rush them, you can't really fight them you just have to get through them. A broken relationship is very similar to a death and the way we react is also very similar.
Allow yourself to grieve and at a certain point, there is a flicker of light & hope and you come through it all before you know it. The pain gets less, thoughts get easier and you can say his/her name without tears
Thanks. Seeing it all typed out like that helps me see where I'm at and what to expect. That makes it a little better.
And thanks to everyone else for your responses. Internet strangers are more kind than the people I know in real life.
There is a whole book on that. Some lady from the 1970's? Judith something or other I think. I read that book back in college and it really is helpful. Helped me with my father passing away.
originally posted by: underwerks
a reply to: Fools
Time. I have been fortunate enough that the first "love of my life" stayed around long enough for me to also hate her. So letting go was alot less painful.
Honestly I kind of wish it had ended that way. It would have been a lot easier.
originally posted by: underwerks
It would be easy to have a rebound, I just dont think I'm ready for that yet. A girl that I have a history with has been messaging me since she found out, but I can't even think about that.
Booze seems the best option at the moment until I'm out of whatever hellish stage I'm in right now.