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originally posted by: underwerks
originally posted by: Bigburgh
originally posted by: infolurker
a reply to: underwerks
There are 2 cures to this condition.
Time and finding another girl.
You're half right...
Time and Distance...
I had an Epiphany and found peace with myself. Single and perfectly HAPPY since 2005.
That's true, but every other time I've been in a similar situation I've moved thousands of miles away. Maybe that isn't the solution this time. Maybe it is. I dont know.
All I know is that I'm tired of running
originally posted by: KansasGirl
originally posted by: underwerks
a reply to: KansasGirl
Thank you for your reply. That's exactly how I'm feeling right now. And yes it was sudden. One day we were fine, and the next it was over.
I can't help but to question everything she told me at this point. Even though I believe deep down that she meant everything she said about us, her actions say something completely different than her words.
Anybody can say anything, but actions will always tell the true story.
I knew it. That out of the blue thing makes it worse, and like you said, it gives you the added hell of going back and questioning everything. I did too! Forgot about that shippy part.
I know you don't believe it, but I promise you will feel normal again and you WILL be with another woman again whom you love as much as Ms. Sudden Breakupper. In fact, I bet money that you will end up with someone who is a million times better than Ms. Didnt-have-the-guts-to-bring-anything-up-until-the-last-minute-and-just-ran-like-a-12 year old-Girl. I'm also gonna bet money that you'll be with a woman so much better that you will look back and wonder why the hell you ever loved this one. Happened to me! 😃😃😃
originally posted by: underwerks
I've recently gotten out of a relationship. I love this woman more than I ever thought it was possible to love someone. She was my entire world, every part of it. I really believed we would spend the rest of our lives together, have kids, everything. She was all I ever wanted and then some. And now its over.
I haven't eaten since Monday, haven't slept since then, and I'm a wreck. Physically and emotionally. I couldn't tell you which way is up or down. She's the only thing I can think about, and no matter what I do I can't stop that. We genuinely had a soul to soul connection, and that is such a rare thing to find. How is someone supposed to start getting over something like this? My instinct is to drink, but I realize that will probably only make things worse. And the last thing I need to do is send her some crazy drunk messages.
I dont know. I've been in love before but it was never like this. I've never loved anyone as much as I love her, and now it feels like my world is completely broken in half.
I feel like there is no future or hope for anything at this point. She was my light at the end of the tunnel, and now it's gone. How do you even begin to start letting go of someone that means that much?
originally posted by: underwerks
I've recently gotten out of a relationship. I love this woman more than I ever thought it was possible to love someone. She was my entire world, every part of it. I really believed we would spend the rest of our lives together, have kids, everything. She was all I ever wanted and then some. And now its over.
How do you even begin to start letting go of someone that means that much?
originally posted by: ParasuvO
a reply to: underwerks
First thing is delete her number from phone...delete facebook and everything that ties..don't make that mistake cause you will likely drink and its too easy to text dumb snip.
Second thing is delete all pictures, friends and talk to noone she knows.
Third play sports when you can, workout and find a mission in life that has nothing to do with what other people do.
Wish I had done those things alot sooner...glad i did after few months.
My suggestion is to play what I call the "as if" game. Walk through the next few days living "as if" nothing has happened and you are carefree and happy. First time's a struggle but then the act begins to feel natural. Don't play any old tapes in your head featuring your ex-she's the past, the ex.
originally posted by: dfnj2015
a reply to: underwerks
You need to get your mind occupied on something else. Take a second night time job in the mall. Working for minimum wage is like mental floss.
originally posted by: underwerks
a reply to: putnam6
Dammit that was right on. Thanks for sharing that video. That actually helped alot.
And for anyone else that may read this later that is going through the same thing, I found something weird that helped me. War movies. I have no idea why. Maybe it's just me or maybe its because I'm a man, but I didn't really think about her at all while I was watching Apocalypse Now and Platoon.
I have no idea why.
originally posted by: KKLOCO
originally posted by: underwerks
a reply to: putnam6
Dammit that was right on. Thanks for sharing that video. That actually helped alot.
And for anyone else that may read this later that is going through the same thing, I found something weird that helped me. War movies. I have no idea why. Maybe it's just me or maybe its because I'm a man, but I didn't really think about her at all while I was watching Apocalypse Now and Platoon.
I have no idea why.
Because those movies put life into serious perspective. There can be much worse things in life than a breakup.
Happy to see you in better spirits.