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originally posted by: underwerks
I've recently gotten out of a relationship. I love this woman more than I ever thought it was possible to love someone. She was my entire world, every part of it. I really believed we would spend the rest of our lives together, have kids, everything. She was all I ever wanted and then some. And now its over.
I haven't eaten since Monday, haven't slept since then, and I'm a wreck. Physically and emotionally. I couldn't tell you which way is up or down. She's the only thing I can think about, and no matter what I do I can't stop that. We genuinely had a soul to soul connection, and that is such a rare thing to find. How is someone supposed to start getting over something like this? My instinct is to drink, but I realize that will probably only make things worse. And the last thing I need to do is send her some crazy drunk messages.
I dont know. I've been in love before but it was never like this. I've never loved anyone as much as I love her, and now it feels like my world is completely broken in half.
I feel like there is no future or hope for anything at this point. She was my light at the end of the tunnel, and now it's gone. How do you even begin to start letting go of someone that means that much?
Relationships are a mirror ... and we project on that mirror-person a whole lot.
Such intense feelings rarely reflect actual admiration, but more a desperate clutching against some existential terror or perceived personal lacking. It's rarely fair to project such intense feelings on another...
it's a huge responsibility that few would want or can bear.
But be glad time didn't dull the insanity of early love and live with a richer memory of what was, rather than the usually dour reality of what is.
And I decided against the alcohol for tonight. It wouldn't be a good idea at this point.
I just want to say thank you ATS for all the great advice
originally posted by: tinner07
a reply to: tinner07
Just focus on yourself... you gotta eat man.... relax and deep breaths... and realize that the sun will still come up tomorrow...
15 years, 2 kids.... she left me for another guy... I ended up in jail for DUI.... that was 20 years ago... she has broken up with all her "boyfriends"... lives at her sisters house... I am happily married and 16 months away from 32 years of my union pension...
It is not the end of the world...
originally posted by: LightSpeedDriver
As has already been stated, don't hit the booze. It can turn into a daily habit fairly quickly. It doesn't kill the pain, it just temporarily numbs the senses. Until the next day when you wake up anyway.
Even though it may feel like it, it is not the end of the world or your world but a period of transition. It will be hard. Good luck.
One more thing, eat food. Alcohol will remove your hunger temporarily but it is not a substitute for real nutrition. Even if you have to go to McDonalds or some other fast-food place.
originally posted by: underwerks
a reply to: KansasGirl
Thank you for your reply. That's exactly how I'm feeling right now. And yes it was sudden. One day we were fine, and the next it was over.
I can't help but to question everything she told me at this point. Even though I believe deep down that she meant everything she said about us, her actions say something completely different than her words.
Anybody can say anything, but actions will always tell the true story.