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How do you get over someone that you love?

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posted on Mar, 17 2019 @ 09:39 AM
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originally posted by: JAGStorm
a reply to: underwerks

Here is another weird thing that happens.
After you've had a hard break up, swear to all the universe that you are going to stay single and only do you.

I guarantee women will be coming out of the woodwork. It is weird how that always happens. People that are dying to meet somone never do, and people that don't want to meet someone new, will have people coming out of the woodwork.

I met the love of my life that way. I was in a horrible relationship that I thought was love, but it wasn't. Sometimes you don't realize it until you are in a different relationship. It was a string of fate that I had to be in my first relationship to meet my true one.

Also people think they know love. I really don't believe you know true deep down gritty love until you've been with someone at least 20+ years. That sounds like a long time, but it really isn't.

Right now you are probably numb, sick, and can't get outside of your own head. That is ok, you are human. I think too many of us repress our emotions. Let it all out so when you do meet your soul mate you'll be ready, and you will appreciate it so much more.



Thanks for the advice. That does make me feel better. Its been almost a week but I can finally get out and be around people so I'm starting to feel a little better. It still feels like there's a gaping hole inside of me but it's not as bad as it was a week ago.

Thanks for the words and advice everyone. Except for everyone saying I should get farm animals. I think that's illegal in my state.




posted on Mar, 17 2019 @ 02:09 PM
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OR........If you want a good wallow, and who doesn't love a good wallow

sometimes?









ENJOY



posted on Apr, 25 2019 @ 02:01 AM
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one day you will meet your person, i belive in it. I like person which I have no chance to meet in real life



posted on May, 14 2019 @ 12:51 AM
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a reply to: underwerks
Acceptance is key, although, easier said than done at times. Letting go is never easy, but fighting it only prolongs the misery and the inevitable. Cut your losses and do your best to move forward with your life or option B, wallow in your dirty diaper and be miserable. You do have choices. Love can be a selfish endeavor, you just have to face the fact that if it wasn’t right for her it would never be right for you.

Im not religious but this prayer has got me through some troubled times.

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and the wisdom to know the difference



posted on May, 14 2019 @ 03:07 AM
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a reply to: mtnshredder

Your post is reasonable and on point, however love isn't rational so in my mind you cannot use rational to explain chaos. Other than that I would agree with your stance.



posted on Jun, 10 2019 @ 01:42 AM
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a reply to: underwerks

I feel your pain Brother.
I'm going through the same thing now.
Great advice on here and I hope you're getting somewhere.
Cheers.



posted on Jun, 10 2019 @ 06:26 AM
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Any kind of relationship that imagines that we can fulfill ourselves through another, is bound to be tricky.

Ideally people should come together already feeling fulfilled within themselves, and thus just appreciating that in the other, rather that expecting the other to supply that well-being, which they don't (but should) feel on their own..." 

- Jetsunma Tenzin Palmo



posted on Jun, 11 2019 @ 02:13 AM
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I was in your boat for a long tine. Not because I had to be, but because there comes a point when you can be choosing the pain by holding on or choosing healing by letting go. And like you, I was absolutely in every way invested in this person. I couldn't let go. Wouldn't. Chose not to. The way I see it, we can get so wrapped up in the idea of something and what our plans are that we allow our brains to just kind of leave out the negative things about someone. And we obsess about certain memories, we come into agreement with thoughts that say we can never have a true connection again. But that's exactly what they are: thoughts. And as smart as we humans may think we are and can sometimes be, our thoughts can certainly be wrong. So that's something to remember. I don't know why your relationship ended specifically but it's going to be a process, you may go from feeling great to feeling horrible to feeling pretty good again and then BAM: Depression. There's no set guide, here, except one: let yourself feel things. From what I've experienced, the hardest thing for me to personally do is face my pain because it's friggen painful and I want to be happy. I think that's normal. So what do we do? We drink, we numb it away with whatever, we try to shove it away and forget about it. Because feeling pain actually sucks. It's hard. It's a lot. Especially if you put yourself on the table, especially if you were vulnerable for this person. That's cutting, it's like death and I'm not trying to sound dramatic. I just understand. So my advice is decide to feel your feelings. Keeping busy and moving on will only be bandaids if you don't deal with what's going on inside of you and time doesn't heal all wounds by itself, in my opinion. Letting go seems way more difficult outside the door than it is once you get in there. Know that your value doesn't depend on anyone or anything, you are valuable, you were born valuable and that'll never change. And there will be a person for you that'll fit in ways and in places that you didn't even realize someone could fit. Right now though? Feel your feelings. Write them down, however it is you process your thoughts. Process them. I know it might sound too simple, maybe silly. But coming from someone who has done literally everything BUT process their feelings, trust me.....it goes a long way. I will pray on your behalf. Goodnight.
edit on 11-6-2019 by sundayaddams because: Fixing grammatical error



posted on Sep, 4 2019 @ 09:47 AM
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a reply to: underwerks

It's painful to even fathom the idea of losing someone you love so deeply; not being able to be with them, by there side. BUT - don't let that bring your individuality down, your own self-respect and self-love. Always remember you are one of a kind and have something great to offer. Don't lose yourself in harmful situations where you may be susceptible to losing self-control. No matter what happens in life, the universe will always unite two souls if they are truly meant to be. Both your paths may be crossed right now, but in time, they may reunite once again. Stay strong and positive.



posted on Sep, 11 2019 @ 07:02 AM
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Think of it this way. You've been riding a donkey up hill with a 30 lb sack of apples on your back for a long time, when suddenly the sack breaks out of the blue and makes the animal jolt in the wrong direction. You get bucked off it and as you're sitting there stunned, you look down and notice the apples were rotten so no big loss right, and the lame animal running gets hit by a truck because you were sold a weak sick creature to bear the sack by a swindling salesman who also sold you on the crappy rotten apples.

Not much logic in holding the pain of loss in so you keep walking up the hill till you reach the top, and by the time you get there you've forgotten the whole scenario you left behind.

haha sorry that's how I've view this stuff now. Anyhow to the poster, chin up life' is to short to worry about loser # ups



posted on Sep, 11 2019 @ 07:50 AM
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a reply to: TGunner

Sage advice TGunner .

I'm getting there slowly . Theres a lot of guff you can read but this Guy puts it so simply I wonder why we all don't get it ...

Dave Weller - Master Your LIfe



posted on Sep, 11 2019 @ 11:40 AM
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a reply to: underwerks




t still feels like there's a gaping hole inside of me but it's not as bad as it was a week ago.


Poor thing, why don't you take another week meandering
around this thread some more. Cheese and rice no wonder she
bailed on your ass you're a sympathy hound and you know what
women don't like? Pathetic! Welcome to the world Pal you keep
milk'n it and it will leave without you.





posted on Sep, 18 2019 @ 08:05 AM
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originally posted by: AmeriCol529
a reply to: underwerks

It's painful to even fathom the idea of losing someone you love so deeply; not being able to be with them, by there side. BUT - don't let that bring your individuality down, your own self-respect and self-love. Always remember you are one of a kind and have something great to offer. Don't lose yourself in harmful situations where you may be susceptible to losing self-control. No matter what happens in life, the universe will always unite two souls if they are truly meant to be. Both your paths may be crossed right now, but in time, they may reunite once again. Stay strong and positive.



Thanks for the kind words. This is all new territory to me. I've never loved anyone the way I do her. I feel like I'm in a dark room stumbling trying to find the exit.

The rest of my life has been going great. My music is taking off, I have songs coming out with some big artists from Nashville, I'm about to release an album and a big local record label is interested in me. And I'm starting a hemp grow this next spring on some land I own and producing CBD.

I have a big circle of friends and we go out all the time. But even in the midst of all this success, it still feels like something is missing. I'll be at a party or at a show hearing the music I produced live and all I can think about is her being there with me. Experiencing all this. I guess when you really, truly love someone it never fades or goes away. I wish I could just know that she's doing ok.

Maybe our paths will reunite one day. I hope you're right about that. I never imagined it was even possible to love someone this much. But I guess that's what real love is.



posted on Sep, 18 2019 @ 09:51 AM
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a reply to: underwerks

There are days where every little thing reminds me of Her.

She even sent me this which hurt quite a bit ...




posted on Sep, 18 2019 @ 04:15 PM
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a reply to: Cymru

The music part was one of the hardest parts for me. I love music so much. And there's still some songs I can't listen to.

I'm in a lot better place right now. Every moment of every day all I want to do is talk to her, to see her face, hear her voice. If nothing else just to know she's ok. But I have faith that what is truly meant to be will be. I know it sounds crazy, but it has never felt like she's gone. I swear it still feels like she's right here with me.

If we never speak to each other or see each other again, at least I got to feel what real love is like for a little while. And that's more than most people get.



posted on Sep, 19 2019 @ 06:14 AM
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originally posted by: underwerks
a reply to: Cymru

The music part was one of the hardest parts for me. I love music so much. And there's still some songs I can't listen to.

I'm in a lot better place right now. Every moment of every day all I want to do is talk to her, to see her face, hear her voice. If nothing else just to know she's ok. But I have faith that what is truly meant to be will be. I know it sounds crazy, but it has never felt like she's gone. I swear it still feels like she's right here with me.

If we never speak to each other or see each other again, at least I got to feel what real love is like for a little while. And that's more than most people get.


I'm with you 100% on this.

There are so many memories , places , people, songs, situations.

We were together years back and bumped into eachother again at random and nine years later we're apart again.

We joked that we were meant to be together but find ourselves parted again


I miss her every moment of every day and need to stop listening to things like this ..




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