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originally posted by: KKLOCO
So you want me to spell it out. That’s fine, I have nothing to hide. Well, technically I only have two kids, but my ex constituted a third. I worked my ass off to support them (wife did not work), did all the cooking, did all the cleaning, supported them mentally and emotionally, played with them, coached their basketball and football teams and was the main disciplinarian. When I got home from work, the ex was out the door to go clubbing and spend all our money. She wouldn’t come home sometimes for 3 days in a row (this happened a lot) Obviously, years later I found out she wasn’t just clubbing, she was sleeping around (A LOT) including having a full blown relationship with my best friend. I don’t claim to be a perfect father. Could I have done better — yes. But I was a far better parent than their mom. Now she is all they have the majority of the year. She makes all the decisions now. And this person is not fit to do so. Lives in a narcissistic fairy tale fantasy land. All this aside and as I previously mentioned, I never sought sole custody. I knew that children need both parents. My parents didn’t split until I was 21 and out of the house. I was still devastated. But at least I had both there growing up for that balance that every kid needs. Even if that means separate households with both parents actively in the kids lives.
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: KKLOCO
The judicial systems have been screwing fathers for decades.
Tell ya what -- when Paternity DNA testing becomes mandatory and child support becomes mandatory (without excuses) -- let me know.
Men may not always get a fair deal in court (although that is changing) -- but, it doesn't even come close to "sperm donors" skipping out.
originally posted by: SuicideKing33
"Involuntary Celibicy"?? No it's completely voluntary. That's a really dumb phrase.
If someone is so involuntarily celibate maybe they should
Lower their standards a little bit...if you're a 4 good luck chasing 9s and 10s...you're striking out. There will always be options beneath your station in life.
Work to improve yourself/have some worth...hit the gym and get the bank account up. Personally I would hate to be an ugly rich guy, you would know any legit interest from hot women would not be because they are really attracted to you...but boo hoo wipe your tears with $100 bills.
Failing those pay some gal who expects as much...and there's where it pays to be the guy with a bank account because girls who charge $10 will not be playboy playmates.
So there is nothing involuntary about it...if you're worth nothing those are the girls you will get. But you have to voluntarily bang them.
originally posted by: enlightenedservant
a reply to: Xenogears
I think Annee is referring to this:
About 60% of single mothers in the US live in poverty. Only 29% of single mothers ever received child support, and the average per month received by these mothers was $432.
Single parents worldwide: Statistics and trends