posted on Dec, 1 2017 @ 05:23 PM
My best Friends Fiasco.I mean Fiance..
So, this is a rant...
My best friend, for over 30 years is like a brother to me. I consider him family and we actually introduce our selves as such even though we share the
same first name.
We have been through everything together. We worked on the road covering the eastern seaboard for many years and have spent countless hours in the cab
When I had my neck surgery he spent two weeks at my house helping me recover. When he had his first "attack" and was hospitalized and diagnosed with
multiple sclerosis, I stayed with him for a month. As I said we are family.
My friend also had alapecia in his youth, an overactive immune system considered his hair a threat and he was bald through high school, no eye brows
or any thing. And because kids can be brutal sphincter wrinkles, he was teased a lot and developed a cutting sense of humor and some really thick
But his insecurities have lead to very bad choices in women. He puts up with a lot, for the sake of having a warm body . .
After we left the moving company he moved to New Hampshire and through a very long process got himself a really good job at a major firearms
He started in the forges as a temp from an agency, and now he is a team lead office guy. Which didn't surprise me one bit knowing his work ethic.
He met his first fiance many years ago when we worked at the moving company. He moved her and her daughter into his apartment and took care of that
girl like she was his own.. huge birthdays and Christmas's , school supplies, clothes, plus the roof and food.
We worked long hours, and sometimes we would be gone a week or two at a time( an 80 hour work week was normal).
And she liked to party, this led to a lot of shenanigans on her part. Late nights , not coming home at all were the norm ...leaving her daughter with
her grandmother and taking off for days..
Eventually he left his contracting job, to be able to provide a more stable environment for what he considered his family.So they moved to New
Hampshire and he got a job at the temp agency to make ends meet while looking for something permanent.
She was used to the cash flow he provided before as a subcontractor working his ass off. And she couldn't get used to not eating out every night or
more importantly going out and partying with the friends she left behind in Connecticut on his dime..
Now as I said we are like brothers so I told him once how I felt about her and never brought it up again..I let it play out silently through there
breakup .. a few years later he actually thanked me for that..not constantly talking # about her, just letting him vent , without piling on her like
his parents and extended family(they were engaged) would do.
So they broke up , she left, that was that.
After that the agency placed him where he is now, full time..
So now he is making really good money again, has a nicer apartment and a truck , just genuinely doing great.
Then the fiasco ...
He starts talking to a girl he knew in his teens when he was in a dark place, who is a hardcore alcoholic, with pancreas issues , hospitalization is
the norm at this point for her when she drinks.. She is also not so slick about hiding her opiate addiction..
I see she is using him, she treats him like a checkbook.. whenever he leaves the room when I visit( which is rarely now)she takes that opportunity to
list his faults to me..She talks # about his half brother who is there roommate, who I am also good friends with.. She talks about his half sister,
who I am also friends with..
Hell she talks # about his 86 year old grandmother, the woman who uses her cane to get out of her chair just to give me a hug when I visit her..
And then he walks back in the room And she shifts gears..It's crazy.
So I have told him once just like before, what I think, and try to bite my tongue again as he vents about her.
~continued next post~