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originally posted by: one4all
a reply to: Mike Stivic
Friends tell friends.
The world is full of givers and takers.....he is involved with a taker who will never display any conscience for her actions.....he is a giver who will never hold grudges for his losses......if you re a friend you will simply show him what happens when a less experienced giver meets a more experienced taker.....inequity.....and no healthy relationship can be founded on inequity.
originally posted by: Iamonlyhuman
originally posted by: Mike Stivic
a reply to: Mike Stivic
~Continued~
So, on my last visit, she shows me her ring...
Marriage is quite a bit different than just living together, don't you think? Doesn't the fact that he's going to marry her deserve 1 more warning from you???
originally posted by: one4all
a reply to: Mike Stivic
I dont let friends slide into alcoholism...drugs....unhealthy relationships...or anything that could ruin their lives....if you are a friend you will leave your phone on and record her behaviours....then show him.....if he takes offense so be it...he is your friend right...so it shouldnt destroy a friendship should it...and if it does...was it really a 2-way friendship?....or is he just "your" friend?
originally posted by: KansasGirl
But now marriage is on the table, and it will be a million more times complicated when she inevitably runs up thousands and thousands dollars' worth of hospital bills with her alcohol and drug addiction. And he will be stuck paying for them, and she doesn't even love him. They get married, their finances are linked, she racks up endless debt, eventually leaves him or cheats on him, and he's left with her mess. You've got to say something.
As I said we are family.
originally posted by: chelsdh
Until we have our "ah ha!" moments for ourselves, nothing anyone else says will matter. We may hear the same thing over and over, but just like a math problem, until we "get it" and it clicks, the pieces don't add up.
Coming from the side of your best friend, he won't hear you until he has ears to hear.