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originally posted by: VegHead
Excellent post, OP...
I think for so many of us, unwanted advances, harassment, and worse are such a common life experience that it is like white noise. You barely notice it except for when it reaches the most invasive or threatening level.
This is part of why some women might not come forward right away. It isn't until looking back, from a safe distance and maturity that comes with time, that you realize how wrongly you were treated. In the moment, it is just "life" ... just another guy aggressively trying to get into your pants.
Thanks for your post - this is probably the best internet discussion I've read on this subject.
originally posted by: MRuss
a reply to: kaylaluv
I'm wondering how you internalized all this beyond not trusting men. For me, I think, it's a self-esteem issue. I always had to prove myself to show there was more to me than being blonde.
On average, there are 321,500 victims (age 12 or older) of rape and sexual assault each year in the United States.
www.rainn.org...
Native Americans Are at the Greatest Risk of Sexual Violence
On average, American Indians ages 12 and older experience 5,900 sexual assaults per year.
American Indians are twice as likely to experience a rape/sexual assault compared to all races.
41% of sexual assaults against American Indians are committed by a stranger; 34% by an acquaintance; and 25% by an intimate or family member.
Sexual Violence Affects Thousands of Prisoners Across the Country
An estimated 80,600 inmates each year experience sexual violence while in prison or jail.
60% of all sexual violence against inmates is perpetrated by jail or prison staff.
More than 50% of the sexual contact between inmate and staff member—all of which is illegal—is nonconsensual.
Sexual Violence in the Military Often Goes Unreported
18,900 military members experienced unwanted sexual contact in the fiscal year ending September, 2014.
4.3% of active duty women and 0.9% of active duty men experienced unwanted sexual contact in FY14.
Of the 18,900 survivors, 43% of females and 10% of males reported.
I believe most every woman has gone through similiar events but really good looking women have some of the worst stories in terms of lifetime harassment.
originally posted by: MRuss
But I basically lived a good part of my life dealing with unwanted attention or bad behavior from men.
He has me thinking that those experiences weren't right and that perhaps in some way they've damaged some part of me that I haven't really ever come to terms with.
I realize it has probably influenced my life in ways I'm not even aware of.
originally posted by: knoxie
a reply to: kaylaluv
there's nothing sadder than a pretty girl who thinks her whole self-worth is tied up in her looks. even worse - parents who push it.
originally posted by: Jobeycool
There are nice guys that give pretty women nice compliments left in the world for the right reasons and flirting is ok as long as it does not go to far.