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originally posted by: Metallicus
originally posted by: fiverx313
thank you for sharing your stories. the more women come forward and say 'yes, this also happened to me', the less anyone can pretend it's not a problem.
Well it WAS a problem.
I am not sure it is one now. The '80s were a very different time.
OP, thanks for sharing your story.
originally posted by: Konduit
Just makes me wonder.
If a 6"3 hulked up mean lookin' muther#er like Terry Crews can get sexually assaulted and forced to take it with a smile and keep his mouth shut... who knows how deep this # goes.
originally posted by: NightSkyeB4Dawn
originally posted by: Konduit
Just makes me wonder.
If a 6"3 hulked up mean lookin' muther#er like Terry Crews can get sexually assaulted and forced to take it with a smile and keep his mouth shut... who knows how deep this # goes.
Unfortunately, many men keep as quiet as women about this kind of activity.
The number of men that have been sexually harassed, abused, raped, and have kept quiet, is also startling. Men don't only not talk about it, but are often extremely reluctant to report the assault.
Maybe if more men spoke up, this problem would decrease faster.
originally posted by: NightSkyeB4Dawn
a reply to: fiverx313
You would be shocked to find out how many people that have experienced some form of unwanted sexual advances, abuse, and rape.
A few years ago when I transferred into Forensic Nursing, I had no idea how important my services would be for both men and women. I primarily care for people from age 14 and up, but I am aware if the cases that involve infants, toddlers, and pre-teens.
The first time someone shared their story with me, outside of the job, I was a bit surprised. She knows what I do for a living, she was washing my hair when she just blurted out that she had been raped by her uncle's friend when he was 16 years old, and she had never told anyone about it.
That was the first of many individuals coming to me to free themselves of the events that happened years ago that they kept bottled up inside for years. You would be shocked to know how many men and women, old and young, that have been victims of sexual abuse, and have never uttered a word to anyone about it.
I am so blessed to have so many people that trust me to be their confidant. That trust me to listen to their story without judging or placing blame, and that they will allow me to comfort them and to provide the support they need.
The numbers are staggering, and like others that have posted before me, the shame belongs to those that knew and did nothing. We have known that power and money have made victims, particularly among children in Hollywood, for years. Victims have spoken up on numerous occasions, but nothing has changed and business will continue as usual, just like it did after Polanski and all the others. We feed the beast that feeds off our children. Disney, Nickelodeon, almost everything that Hollywood and the MSM produces is tainted and toxic. Yet we continue to worship them, we continue to bring them into our children's lives, and we bring them into our homes. It won't stop until we stop.
originally posted by: TobyFlenderson
a reply to: MRuss
It's only harassment if the advances are unwelcome. It's the quandary of the single man. How do you know it will not be welcome until you try? This of course doesn't go for people in positions of power. For a boss to hit on an employee is harassment. I also think that it must work at least some times otherwise these clowns would develop a different strategy.
originally posted by: Kali74
originally posted by: NightSkyeB4Dawn
originally posted by: Konduit
Just makes me wonder.
If a 6"3 hulked up mean lookin' muther#er like Terry Crews can get sexually assaulted and forced to take it with a smile and keep his mouth shut... who knows how deep this # goes.
Unfortunately, many men keep as quiet as women about this kind of activity.
The number of men that have been sexually harassed, abused, raped, and have kept quiet, is also startling. Men don't only not talk about it, but are often extremely reluctant to report the assault.
Maybe if more men spoke up, this problem would decrease faster.
Men/boys report sexual assault on a minuscule scale. We really need to make it okay for them to come forward, somehow.
originally posted by: Blue Shift
Oh, I've given up on that. It was difficult to begin with, and these days the risk to benefit ratio has made it too problematic.
"Come on, dude. Be a man!" Yeah, right.
originally posted by: mazzroth
The problem is bigger than this, as a species we have moved on from just being born, eating, reproducing and dying. The reproducing part has turned into rape when you must consider that it was normal for probably 1 millions years of our evolution to actually rape to reproduce. Some men's minds are still wired for this and I don't have the answer except perhaps there is some use for those robot sex dolls after all.
originally posted by: angeldoll
I agree, but you know what? I listened to that audio yesterday, and a woman was saying "I don't want to go with you. Nooo. You made me uncomfortable yesterday. Nooo, I don't want to go", etc. etc. The exchange went on for several minutes. She was practically cooing "noooo".
How about "you need to keep your filthy hands off me, perv", you are barking up the wrong tree if you think I'm going to quietly let you molest me".
There is a way to say nooo, and then there is a way to say NO. Not that they don't both mean the same thing, they do, but one strictly means business. It's the "polite" thing again, getting in the way. You can't be subtle. You have to be direct, and firm. Even if you don't curse, Curse.
originally posted by: TobyFlenderson
a reply to: angeldoll
Even between co-workers? I know tons of people who have dated co-workers. I agree if it's boss and employee.
originally posted by: InTheLight
originally posted by: Kali74
originally posted by: NightSkyeB4Dawn
originally posted by: Konduit
Just makes me wonder.
If a 6"3 hulked up mean lookin' muther#er like Terry Crews can get sexually assaulted and forced to take it with a smile and keep his mouth shut... who knows how deep this # goes.
Unfortunately, many men keep as quiet as women about this kind of activity.
The number of men that have been sexually harassed, abused, raped, and have kept quiet, is also startling. Men don't only not talk about it, but are often extremely reluctant to report the assault.
Maybe if more men spoke up, this problem would decrease faster.
Men/boys report sexual assault on a minuscule scale. We really need to make it okay for them to come forward, somehow.
I think Terry Crews has made that extremely possible now.