Dating a stripper

originally posted by: randyvs
a reply to: OccamsRazor04

It's pure BS that everyone in this thread is jealous.

But of course this isn't true either.

Everyone has to make their own decisions. You made yours. You have no regrets. I am glad for that. I am in no way telling the OP what to do, it's his choice. I am trying to give him as much information as possible so he can make the right choice for him.

If he chooses to go for it he could love it or regret it, if he chooses not to he could be happy or regret it.

You're being set up.

a reply to: Pandaram

Phew! I thought was going another Profusion thread!

Carry on...

a reply to: SBMcG

I had a hostess try to set me up once. She told me she was a part owner and got 1 of the strippers there to back her story up. She was doing escorting on the side, very glad I never dated her.

a reply to: OccamsRazor04

If almost losing your life was worth some sex and conversation that is you. My life has more meaning to me.

You make a good point here. I was running a gigantic muck back then.
I was very able and capable of taking care of myself. It wasn't even close
really. But ones abilitys should be measured accurrately I'll give you that.



But that's a point of contention in everything men do.

a reply to: randyvs

I get the appeal. I don't even know why I have met so many strippers, I have never even been to a strip club in my life. Right before I met my wife a 19yo stripper who was doing it to pay for college was trying to be my gf. I think I was 33 at the time.

Said she hated being a stripper and couldn't wait to leave the life, and she was bi and we would always have gorgeous girls joining us in bed, and she's never had sex with a customer but she dated the owner for a bit.

I had no interest because I already knew how things were. Truth was she had to sleep with the owner to get the job, she had sex with a lot of customers, and after college she ended up becoming an escort. It's actually funny how I found out some of the stuff.

originally posted by: SBMcG
You're being set up.

LMAO Dis @$#%en guy man!

originally posted by: OccamsRazor04
a reply to: randyvs

I get the appeal. I don't even know why I have met so many strippers, I have never even been to a strip club in my life. Right before I met my wife a 19yo stripper who was doing it to pay for college was trying to be my gf. I think I was 33 at the time.

Said she hated being a stripper and couldn't wait to leave the life, and she was bi and we would always have gorgeous girls joining us in bed, and she's never had sex with a customer but she dated the owner for a bit.

I had no interest because I already knew how things were. Truth was she had to sleep with the owner to get the job, she had sex with a lot of customers, and after college she ended up becoming an escort. It's actually funny how I found out some of the stuff.

Doesn't sound like to bad a deal for you?
I say life is an adventure and you need an accurrate gage for contention.
I was pretty evil at one time tho. Not to proud of that but I never hurt
anyone didn't have it come'n.

a reply to: randyvs

I am not one to brag and it would not even be allowed on ATS, but I have lived a very full life, just without the risk of a stripper gf.

a reply to: OccamsRazor04

I hope I didn't sound like I was bragging, that's why I hate
talk'n about myself.

originally posted by: randyvs
a reply to: OccamsRazor04

I hope I didn't sound like I was bragging, that's why I hate
talk'n about myself.

No, you weren't. It's all good.

It's possible but don't get blinded by infatuation. Never forget her priority is getting money out of people such as yourself.

-Alee

a reply to: Pandaram

Question: Is the woman in question a long time stripper or is it just something she does for short periods of time? Is the job something she enjoys or is it something that is just a means to an end? The answers to these questions make a huge difference in what sort of mindset she has.

I have known many, many women (myself included) who at times in their lives have worked as a stripper sporadically (on as as necessary basis) or done the job to pay for school, etc. These women are just normal women who are smart enough to figure out that it is a wonderful opportunity to make a large amount of money in the shortest amount of time and are usually sober on the job and all business. They go home and lead normal lives and you would never know they were a dancer unless they informed you of such.

Then there are those who strip because they get their kicks from all of the male attention. They play a lot of head games and are experts at it. They are all about playing men for whatever they can get from them. I saw someone mention something about the sort who wants to "meet at the club"- watch out for those. They will give you just enough details to string you along and once you're in their hooks you are doomed! They're looking for "Sugar Daddy" and they are manipulative enough to turn you into one before you even realize what has happened.

Next are women who are "supporting their habit" whether alcohol, drugs, whatever. They are already buzzed before getting to the club. They will say or do anything to get your money to finance their next fix- including "funny business". They prey on the loneliness of men and the have absolutely no scruples or morality- and are most likely to offer up sex for money. Run far, far away from these barracudas! They are "lifers".

There are women who strip to support their boyfriends/husbands usually because they are either unemployed or are pimping out their girlfriends/wives. Boyfriend/husband is probably sitting in a dark corner of the club sipping a bourbon and coke. You will see her glance over her shoulder at him nervously every 10-15 minutes. If she just looked over her shoulder and then starts groping you under the table run- she costs by the hour and you're liable to get mugged by boyfriend/hubby in the parking lot.

Lastly there are strippers who are doing the job to support their children. They strip because they can do it at night while their kids sleep at their grandparents or sitters houses so the kids wont know what they do for a living. You can usually spot them by the badly covered dark circles under their eyes because they only got 4 hours of sleep before they had to get the kids ready for school, had a parent/teacher conference that day and still had to pick up the kids from soccer practice, help with homework and cook supper before work that evening. They are tired and they are trapped- but they are also looking for a Prince Charming to rescue them from their fate. Some go on to make wonderful girlfriends and wives, but most end up irreparably broken.

Most importantly- if the woman you are interested in is in the job for the long term get out now. Doing the job for too long messes with your head and rather than boosting your self esteem as most would think it only does so temporarily before it begins to destroy your self esteem, that is why many dancers eventually end up with alcohol or drug abuse problems. If the woman is just doing it short term to catch up on bills, pay for school, save up for a down payment for a house, pay for care for an ailing mother, etc. and is cool with letting you know her real name, where she lives and meet her friends and family chances are good that she is okay and maybe you should give dating her a try! No risk, no gain!

Just posted to brag? Congratulations!

a reply to: Pandaram

Nike dude-Just do it; Ask her out.

If she asks you for a dollar as she undresses herself after the date, head for the hills. But if you do a strip tease and get her to stuff a dollar in your boxers or briefs, you may be a lucky S.O.B.

But don't get your hopes up (or anything else) because it might be an act. I genuinely thought a cashier was into me but then she can be just as nice to the old fossil next in line. All your lady friend can do is say no or in my case "stop looking through my window you creep!"

All jokes aside she didn't call me a creep-it was far worse than that. Another joke aside remember Nike, and if she turns you down then it won't be the last time it happens and that's okay, just don't end up the guy who ends up being friendzoned for eternity.

a reply to: Thecakeisalie

And when you start itching after a few weeks call the Dr.

Depends how secure you are in yourself. A lot of guys would have issues with the fact that other guys see her naked on a regular basis and that she gets hit on 372819171 times a night. If you can put those things to the side and you click there's nothing wrong with it as long as you go into it with your eyes open.

It's probably because you actually spoke to her as a human being instead of trying to desperately bang that she likes you.

Sitting at the poker tables I have definitely talked to my share of strippers and working girls, and I find them to be just as normal as anyone else. I say go for it. She won't be a stripper for ever and a lot of girls pay their way through college stripping. Its good experience for life.

Just book marking this for reference.
My lovely wife used to be a dancer back in the day .
She did it on occasion to take care of her family.
Smartest woman I now and sweetest one with a very good heart.

Good luck, OP, just be on your toes !

Have you ever rescued a woman? If not it should be on your bucket list of things to do before you exit the current hell hole we all live on.

The "rescue" consists of this:

Be a friend to her without having a physical relationship with her. Even if she hits on you.

Once she has calmed down with her sexual pursuits thinking you're playin 'hard to get' and realizes your friendship isn't about sex, but genuine friendship, she'll open up. Maybe tell you she doesn't like having to do what she does. If she reveals that to you pounce on it and see if she would be interested in a different line of work and help her create it or find it since you said you're good at landing contracts. Doing this and remaining friends like this will generate trust and compassion which will be good for both you and her. If you do fall in love with each other, celebrate a beautiful union before having sex. If you don't fall in love, your precious treatment of her will 'line' the energies for both of you with beautiful partners in long term healthy sexual relationships to appear in the future. Treating others well trickles outward. Being able to do this will help you achieve the ranks of the Exquisite White Knight Brotherhood that is solely a universal conciousness based group that resides deep inside the hearts of men as they help 'grow' the women they meet in their life to be the warm and nurturing light they were designed to be. A beautiful world awaits those who think about it, then we can enacted in it.