posted on May, 4 2017 @ 12:24 PM
a reply to: Pandaram
Question: Is the woman in question a long time stripper or is it just something she does for short periods of time? Is the job something she enjoys or
is it something that is just a means to an end? The answers to these questions make a huge difference in what sort of mindset she has.
I have known many, many women (myself included) who at times in their lives have worked as a stripper sporadically (on as as necessary basis) or done
the job to pay for school, etc. These women are just normal women who are smart enough to figure out that it is a wonderful opportunity to make a
large amount of money in the shortest amount of time and are usually sober on the job and all business. They go home and lead normal lives and you
would never know they were a dancer unless they informed you of such.
Then there are those who strip because they get their kicks from all of the male attention. They play a lot of head games and are experts at it. They
are all about playing men for whatever they can get from them. I saw someone mention something about the sort who wants to "meet at the club"- watch
out for those. They will give you just enough details to string you along and once you're in their hooks you are doomed! They're looking for "Sugar
Daddy" and they are manipulative enough to turn you into one before you even realize what has happened.
Next are women who are "supporting their habit" whether alcohol, drugs, whatever. They are already buzzed before getting to the club. They will say or
do anything to get your money to finance their next fix- including "funny business". They prey on the loneliness of men and the have absolutely no
scruples or morality- and are most likely to offer up sex for money. Run far, far away from these barracudas! They are "lifers".
There are women who strip to support their boyfriends/husbands usually because they are either unemployed or are pimping out their girlfriends/wives.
Boyfriend/husband is probably sitting in a dark corner of the club sipping a bourbon and coke. You will see her glance over her shoulder at him
nervously every 10-15 minutes. If she just looked over her shoulder and then starts groping you under the table run- she costs by the hour and you're
liable to get mugged by boyfriend/hubby in the parking lot.
Lastly there are strippers who are doing the job to support their children. They strip because they can do it at night while their kids sleep at their
grandparents or sitters houses so the kids wont know what they do for a living. You can usually spot them by the badly covered dark circles under
their eyes because they only got 4 hours of sleep before they had to get the kids ready for school, had a parent/teacher conference that day and still
had to pick up the kids from soccer practice, help with homework and cook supper before work that evening. They are tired and they are trapped- but
they are also looking for a Prince Charming to rescue them from their fate. Some go on to make wonderful girlfriends and wives, but most end up
Most importantly- if the woman you are interested in is in the job for the long term get out now. Doing the job for too long messes with your head and
rather than boosting your self esteem as most would think it only does so temporarily before it begins to destroy your self esteem, that is why many
dancers eventually end up with alcohol or drug abuse problems. If the woman is just doing it short term to catch up on bills, pay for school, save up
for a down payment for a house, pay for care for an ailing mother, etc. and is cool with letting you know her real name, where she lives and meet her
friends and family chances are good that she is okay and maybe you should give dating her a try! No risk, no gain!