Dating a stripper

a reply to: SaturnFX

Except that is in no way what I said. I said I was told by multiple strippers in multiple states that basically every stripper who works for more than a few months is having sex too. Their words, their opinion, they are the source.

I have never been to a strip club, I have no personal experience other than the actual strippers I met.

a reply to: Pandaram

As a former stripper for almost 10 years I would say be cautious. Not all strippers are bad there are some good ones out there but they do look at most men they meet in the club as a potential customer. They make act nice and sweet in the beginning to reel you in and then the drama starts and they need money or help. I have see it time and time again. I was lucky not to be one of those strippers but damn I worked with some who clearly have no soul! I dont like when women lead men on even in this environment. It's wrong, people still have feelings and men that go into these places need to realize the woman is interested in your money not you. Most are married or have partners. I know the game all too well. Just be careful.

originally posted by: Domo1
Strippers do this all the time. They get a guy hooked, won't meet up with them unless it's at the strip club, and milk them for money.

"Hey, can we meet at the club and hang out?". "My boss says I can't talk unless you buy a dance..."

I mean it might not be the case here, but I'm betting it is.

It doesn't matter if you don't have money. Guys get suckered into doing stupid stuff and wasting money all the time when they don't have it. Be realistic about it, do you have a super good personality? Are you incredibly funny? Are you really good looking?

I don't have experience with this personally, but I've seen it happen to people. The stripper/hooker with the heart of gold is probably one of the rarest things in the world. I bet she's also trying to pay her way through college, just wants an honest man who likes her for her and will treat her right. If you're going to pursue it, make her pursue you, don't spend any money on her outside of dates and don't visit her at work. Good luck man.

DOMO! You are correct! I know because I was a stripper, something i never hid on here that's for sure. I remember my drunken jager chats when we had chat lol

There are some genuine strippers out there. I was one of them. I couldn't do regulars because I didn't want to lead them on for money, to me it's still wrong they are a human with feelings. One of my dearest friends who passed away always said I was a stripper with a conscience and didn't treat people like money bags. I could have but it wasn't who I am. I mostly sat and talked to customers, most were from the Space Center and NASA and I enjoyed convos with them and they paid me for my intelligence! It was great! Now you do have the stereo typical strippers who reel you in with drama and the game. Oh and there is a game! I'm sure you get that!

Like you said don't spend any money on her and see what she does. I guarantee in time she will move on.

originally posted by: OccamsRazor04
a reply to: SaturnFX

Except that is in no way what I said. I said I was told by multiple strippers in multiple states that basically every stripper who works for more than a few months is having sex too. Their words, their opinion, they are the source.

I have never been to a strip club, I have no personal experience other than the actual strippers I met.

Um I worked for ten years as a stripper and I NEVER had sex with a customer nor did anything sexual and I was handed $10k by some Saudi prince to go to his room with other chicks and I said hell no.

Not all strippers sleep with customers. You do have those that do but there are more that don't than do. I know because I worked in the industry for ten years in various clubs and you always had that handful who made the stereotype legit, the rest were just making a living and taking care of their families.

originally posted by: mblahnikluver

originally posted by: OccamsRazor04
a reply to: SaturnFX

Except that is in no way what I said. I said I was told by multiple strippers in multiple states that basically every stripper who works for more than a few months is having sex too. Their words, their opinion, they are the source.

I have never been to a strip club, I have no personal experience other than the actual strippers I met.

Um I worked for ten years as a stripper and I NEVER had sex with a customer nor did anything sexual and I was handed $10k by some Saudi prince to go to his room with other chicks and I said hell no.

Not all strippers sleep with customers. You do have those that do but there are more that don't than do. I know because I worked in the industry for ten years in various clubs and you always had that handful who made the stereotype legit, the rest were just making a living and taking care of their families.

I've dated some strippers, had one nighters with some, and have known through family and friends some as close circle friends.
In all that, I personally never met any who were also prostitutes. I know they exist of course. I have met someone in a rando dive strip bar in a different state when on business who was propositioning my collegue once.

In saying that, a stripper will do her job..and that is the hint of maybe you can score if you just keep tipping type attitude. customers get it, they get it, its a fantasy and its nice to feel wanted (even if its just an illusion). Some may say that is even more predatory than just prostitution, but naa..its like a good fiction movie. Cant hate the fact that in the end you probably won't be going to space for real...but you can dream.

In parts of nevada you will certainly have a lot more crossover given its legal there.

And finally, I don't really care what a person does. pros should be legal, regulated, taxed, and clean imo. I see zero difference between that and being a porn actor

a reply to: mblahnikluver

I am only repeating what strippers told me. The reasons they gave varied. The reasons given ranged from sleeping with VIP customers to get the best time slots where they make the most money, to the sex itself being for money, to sleeping with the owner because they wanted to make sure they got the job to begin with.

Like I said from the beginning, I have never even been in a strip club, I am only repeating what girls who worked in them told me. It's not my scene, merely pointing out to the OP it's a very real possibility, so he should take it into consideration.

originally posted by: SaturnFX
In all that, I personally never met any who were also prostitutes.

To be clear I never said they were all prostitutes.

I don't think any of them did straight up prostitution, the one who was a hostess did escorting, that's the closest.

She denied it even after I found out, it was pretty hilarious how I found out, quite a happy accident.

originally posted by: OccamsRazor04

originally posted by: SaturnFX
In all that, I personally never met any who were also prostitutes.

To be clear I never said they were all prostitutes.

umm you said:

99.9% of the girls do more than strip. Strippers themselves tell me that. It's not even negotiable, you do it or you look for a new job.

I assumed you meant prostitution..didnt figure you were discussing arts and crafts or like parasailing.

a escort is a prostitute

a reply to: SaturnFX

Stripper A has sex with big client B so Boss C gives her the best time slots.

She is not having sex for money per se. You may consider that prostitution, not everyone will. Is a woman who has sex at her job with a higher up so she gets promoted a prostitute? What if they are even dating!

I agree escorting is prostitution.

A sexworker is a sexworker. Splitting hairs as to which form of sexworking constitutes as 'prostitution' seems kind of meaningless, when they ALL exploit men's sexuality for financial gain. In my opinion, it's all prostitution - if you're a stripper, porn star, camgirl, you're a prostitute, don't try to sugarcoat it, don't try to split hairs to avoid a label - you choose to exploit men, you choose to face the consequences.

Of course a sexworker is not a 'normal woman' (whatever that means on this planet). Sexworkers have given up any semblance of 'chastity' or 'shyness' about sex, or having second thoughts about exploiting men's sexuality for money. They have tweaked their psychology to fit their job, and they can't untweak it. They have lost their innocence, and you can't put the toothpaste back into the tube. They accept being the cause for thousands of men's ejaculations in one way or another, and the energy flow that goes with that leaves a mark on their psyche, soul, emotions and even physical body.

'Normal women' have tremendous sexual power, but the difference is, sexworkers USE that sexual power for financial gain directly, openly and without any kind of consideration for men's feelings. Normal women may still actually consider and appreciate men's feelings, and not always exploit men's sexuality for financial gain, or they might do it indirectly (through marriage, etc.)

'Normal women' may be faithful to ONE man for relatively long periods of time, and not deliberately arouse multitudes of men towards the inevitable climax. There's a reason why 'slúts' are disrespected, but hard-working 'respectable job'-type women are, well, respected. An air hostess, waitress, hairdresser, nurse or even doctor are 'respected' jobs.

Using your most animalistic bit to exploit masses of the other gender for money is just.. lazy. Plus, it makes you tainted, no matter how you try to get around it; you exchange your body's sexuality for more wallet stuffing, you can't be respected anymore.

There's a reason why women used to as, "will you still respect me in the morning". Think about where that sentiment came from, and why it was very real back in the day.

originally posted by: Shoujikina

Using your most animalistic bit to exploit masses of the other gender for money is just.. lazy. Plus, it makes you tainted, no matter how you try to get around it; you exchange your body's sexuality for more wallet stuffing, you can't be respected anymore.

Does that apply to 'male' escorts too?

Or does it only apply to females?

a reply to: Shoujikina

Why are you necroing old relationship threads?

originally posted by: ManBehindTheMask
a reply to: Shoujikina

Why are you necroing old relationship threads?

Completely off topic but the synchronicity of MyATS was too good not to post.