reply to post by dlbott
I'm a guy too and when I was younger I fantasized about older ladies, but fantasizing and acting on it are two different things.. I know it's easy to laugh about yourself in the situation, but the fact remains that a girl got off on a crime that should have likely locked her away. And as a guy it bothers me knowing that in a day of gender equality we see such disparity, especially in cases like this...
Yes if it were reversed the guy would be in trouble. But which 12 year old will look back on his experience at 12 years old with an NFL cheerleader as traumatic. I have to say though, even if he feels like getting all his birthday presents of a lifetime at once, he still incurs the risk of an STD.edit on 15-11-2013 by Merinda because: (no reason given)
reply to post by jhn7537
A 12 year old boy is in the 7th grade, and yes, a woman looking to attract the attention of a twelve year old is plenty messed up. I think the presumed difference is that the male can say no at anytime, with very little feeling of coercion, while a female is more likely to feel coerced and threatened. I am not excusing the woman's behavior, I am just surprised by the 12 year old males behavior. Its pretty safe to say that my wife would slap me in the mouth if she saw my previous post, but heck, I guess that's just one of the perks of being a man and having a pair, we don't mind the occasional slap in the mouth.
I can actually believe that she was under the influence of drugs, and that she didn't know the boy was underage. It simply depends on how he looked. I've seen people who are young that look like adults, and I'm sure everyone else has as well. To me that makes more sense than some woman suddenly deciding she wanted to engage in such acts with a minor, especially if there was no history of such abuses.
I am a firm believer, when it comes to breaking the law, of INTENT. Intent is very important. Someone who knowingly engages in an illegal act, with the intent to do so, should be punished more than a person who breaks the law without the intent to do so. Sort of like involuntary manslaughter not carrying the same sentence as premeditated murder.
I am not saying she was right or that she didn't break the law. I am just saying that it is POSSIBLE she did not realize she was breaking the law at the time. I think that is the crucial issue of this particular case. If it can be shown that the woman knew the boy previously, and knew that he was underage, then of course that argument falls apart. Then there is the influence of drugs or alcohol.
Those who only break the law because of such things should still be punished, even if they would never have done something like this without the influence of drugs or alcohol. That is not really an excuse. But it does make it a bit more understandable. But people must be held accountable for their actions regardless, although I still believe intent is a huge factor.
as guys, we joke, "where were these women when we were at that age?" seriously, though, the law needs and should be equal to both genders for these type of crimes. 12 years is way to young. and even teen boys can have issues as well. there was a 16 year old a year or two ago who was seduced by his teacher. she was also a cheerleader for the bengals. granted that is a fantasy for most boys that age, the emotional impact of sex at that age with an older woman could be harmful.
what is up with judges lately? why has there been a seemingly increase of slap on the wrists sentences for these crimes? here is one from alabama this week.
A teacher is accused of engaging in various explicit sexual acts with a 16-year-old boy. The Citrus County Sheriff’s Office has arrested Cynthia Herr, 35, after they received a tip on September 12, 2013, concerning inappropriate contact between Herr and and a young boy. Herr is a teacher at John D. Floyd K-8 School of Environmental Science in Spring Hill. Herr told a colleague that she was having sex with a minor. That colleague then informed school administrators, the sheriff’s office said. According to reports, Herr was contacting the boy via Facebook and text messages in which she expressed having romantic feelings for the 16-year-old.
On October 25, 2013, it was reported to the Marion County Sheriff’s Office that a six-year-old boy was sexually battered by an adult female, later identified as Michelle Lucus, 46, of Ocala. During a forensic interview, the six-year-old told authorities that on October 25, 2013, he was walking to the Chevron gas station located at 5895 west highway 40 in Ocala, with family friend Michelle Lucus to buy items for their family. The boy said that once they entered the store, Lucus went to the bathroom and asked him to come in too. The boy says he told her no, but she grabbed him by the arm and pulled him into the bathroom locking the door behind them.
reply to post by jhn7537
Ok, hot nfl cheerleader gives me a hummer I won't be tellin anyone accept her, when you coming back lol...
Seriously, not where I am from, no self respecting twelve year old gonna narc on that to anyone but his best friends and they would want play by play with pictures.... just sayin... lol
things are different with guys folks.... we are controlled by our whacker, especially during those years. lol...