posted on Nov, 7 2013 @ 01:05 PM
Complaining about life, BUT caring so much about what everyone thinks of you - it is hard to please them all...Trying fit in just to try to get "love"
when you can be free being your unique self...
I appreciate the enlightenment in your words. It's hard to say if we'd see it the same without knowing you or having a deeper knowledge of how you
think and see things, but I've often said there is a time to be selfish and a time to be selfless: a time when you need to look after yourself a time
when you need to be there for someone you care about. I think it's all about balance. Modern society enforces conformity and punishes individuality,
from elementary school to the workplace to how society is run.
Selfishness, aka narcissism, is the single biggest problem with the human race.
On the flip side, excessive self-interest results in narcissism. I've long had a personal dislike of narcissists, having had one as a relative, one as
a 'friend' and more than one as an employer. They lie, cheat, steal and treat and view other human beings are puppets to be manipulated for their own
selfish intentions. These people are seriously missing out on the human experience and I feel sorry for them, while despising how they treat those
This is why I say it's about balance, between self-respect and respect for others. Some lean too much one way, some too much another. If a mother
always puts her kids first and never deals with her own problems this may result in a psychological breakdown which won't help anyone. If she always
puts herself first, she's a completely irresponsible mother. With responsibility comes sacrifice, and this is part of life, but at the same time, for
sanity's sake, we can't lose love and respect for who we are.
Some might say therefore that we "all know the answer to this" subject, but I agree with arpgme at least in the sense that we tend to sacrifice too
much of our self-worth. I am something of an individualist and yet I am quite compassionate. To my view, there is a kind of mass low self-esteem in
this world, to the point where most people seem afraid to question authority, to rival a narcissist, to criticize the establishment's view or
'official story' of something or even to challenge the teachings and assumptions handed down to them by parents or other authority figures. People act
like "little nobodies" when they don't have to at all. I never understood this, personally.
Just as a thought, some of it may be genetic and perhaps cultural (millennia of people being raised and treated as peasants would probably have
long-lasting repercussions for many families and cultures.)
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