posted on Aug, 5 2013 @ 03:07 PM
So, a while ago, a friend of hubby asked him if he would stand up for him at a courthouse ceremony. He also asked if I would stand up for his
girlfriend. Hubby said yes. I said no.
I have been around this couple for a while. I had asked him in the past why he said and did some of the things he does and he was honest with me
about loving but not being in love.
Well, at a recent custody hearing regarding a child that he only recently was told about, the judge told him that while they obviously provide the
most stable environment for this child, it would be better if they were married. So, that's what they decided to do.
Mind you, both are older and have grown children, been married before, ect.
My problem with it was my own. I have had a previous marriage, got married for the wrong reason, and went through hell. I sure wasn't about to
encourage someone else to do the same.
So, I sat down with her, and asked her some really personal questions, regarding the situation, how she felt about everything, including why I
Well, she convinced me. She knew the reasoning, how he felt, even the most likely outcome. She was doing this for the child and for him, because the
current situation really is that bad.
So, I participated. I also learned that while my ideals regarding marriage are something I stand by, for myself, there are others that don't feel
the same, or are at a point in their life, where they may be looking for something different, or not looking for anything at all. Just trying to do
the right thing.
I realize that there could be a whole different post, regarding if doing this for a child is even right for this child, but in this situation, knowing
those involved, including the child, this is the right thing.
So, if someone asked you to participate in a wedding, and you knew they weren't "In Love", would you?