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Originally posted by closer707
BTW i was REALLY hoping there was a genuine Zelda conspiracy
Originally posted by jacktorrance
reply to post by pgobbs2277
To start, let me just say that I read every single word of your post, including the comments on Youtube. I know that you said that you pick out key words and will skip responses based on that, but this is not a judgmental or hateful post.
I don't know what kind of connection the two of you had, or didn't have, during your initial chats. But I do know that she doesn't seem to be reciprocating, and that is by your own admission.
I'm not being sarcastic, or condescending in any way when I say this, but can you tell me (or us, or yourself) why? What would she have to gain from ignoring you? You said she wasn't returning your letters even while living in Germany, so it doesn't appear that she was corrupted by the American lifestyle at that point, so that can't be it. And growing up in Germany on an Americanized military base can't have possibly held her back that much from adjusting to society. If she is the girl on Youtube, she seems fairly well adjusted and most definitely up to date on our slang.
So, why? What is the gain in chatting to you for a couple of nights and then seemingly wanting nothing to do with you? How does that fit into this reality that you are living? Again, I am not trying to sound condescending. Text is hard to convey feeling and emotion through, so please do not take it that way. I am an incredibly understanding and caring person, and I never do anything to patronize anyone. You can read my post history if you'd like to see. I always try to give everyone a fair shake.
I just think if you can answer this, then maybe it will help you.
Originally posted by Darkphoenix77
reply to post by pgobbs2277
Actually I did read all of it, and all of the responses, you are right a few responses have been shall we say, less than productive. It just seems that you are brushing off some of the others because it is not what you want to hear. I don't know the reality of how things all fit together for you, but I have been in a similar situation to yours, albeit not as severe and did not reach quite the obsessive level that your post implies.
If you have truly moved on then that is a good thing, you needed to. I hope that is honesty and not denial talking. I have been in a similar situation and have met a person once on a dating chat sight (not sure if I can use the actual name without breaking T&C so not going to chance it), I thought everything was great, she was supposed to come and visit me on a flight and stay for a few weeks. You could say I was obsessed with her, and you would be partially correct. I was, but I think I was more obsessed with the idea of falling in love as I have had that before with my ex whom I lived with for 8 years. When reality......real reality turns out to not be what you expect it can hit you like a slap in the face by ice cold water.
I drove 60 miles one way to pick someone up at an airport who never showed up. I still talked to her for a few weeks online even after the fact but what I thought was reality was never the same. She tried to play it off like I was crazy, that I got the dates wrong and tried to make me believe that the date was a week earlier than the actual real day was. I moved on, it simply was not worth my time or worry any longer. A month later I talked to a cousin of hers online and she confirmed that it was all one big joke to her cousin and it was wrong of her to do me like that. Instead of coming to visit me and get to know me in person after we talked online for over 6 months nightly, she decided to take that money and go to Las Vegas instead. I was not bothered as much by the truth as I at one time thought I would be because I realized she was not worth my efforts and moved on.
If you have come to this realization then that is great, if you are in denial and have not then you need to. Life's too short and sometimes people do not end up being who you think they really are or the image of what you think they are in your mind's eye. You do mention alot of coincidences and you feel that they are indicitive of some greater plan. Who am I to argue? I will say that you should consider the possibilty that they are only that however, coincidences. When we want to see them sometimes we will find them all over, connecting dots that seem like an endless canvas of points of light, but it is an illusion because when we look for them we will inevitibly see them everywhere.