Originally posted by antar
I am not saying that this is the case, i do not know enough about the child, really I knew nothing about him until just last night to say one way or
the other. The principal seemed to know the parents and from their judgements of them did not seem too concerned over them being loose cannons in the
So my question is just in speculation, but what if this child is harboring some secrets and is mimicking what he has been told in a plea for help?
It is confounding to say the least and I have no answers only more questions after this mornings meeting.
edit on 1-2-2013 by antar because:
Will prayerfully ponder your question and try to get back to you on it this evening. I'm going out for a while shortly.
My initial quick response and impression is:
1. He's said some very starkly violent things . . . AT LEAST he's been pondering such outrageous behavior longer than a few minutes. imho, THAT'S
NOT a good sign.
2. I would expect that AT A MINIMUM, he HAS BEEN harboring some secrets from his parents.
3. I'd also bet that
(A) his father has some serious levels of ATTACHMENT DISORDER and has passed those on to the sun--whether from authoritarian harshness, verbal abuse,
physical abuse, coldness, emotional distance, alcoholism or WHATEVER SUCH.
(B) Sons who have an emotionally intimate and bonded relationship with DAD--DO NOT
say ANYTHING CLOSE to what that kid has
said--evidently with great vigor and emotional intensity and intent.
4. I'm ALL FOR TRYING to help the boy. I'd hate to see him grow up and become more violent and end up like so many in prison.
5. To me, the FIRST priority, particularly for you, is your daughter's safety. Anyone who hassles you about that--is in out to lunch, imho.
6. Congrats for not becoming a screaming meemy psychotic basket case full of blame and absurd responses. Your character in how you've handled this so
far could be a model for thousands of other mothers who'd have done far far FAR worse.
7. I'd still be wary, alert to, responsive about . . . tenaciously bull-doggy about not letting the school minimize this nor sweep it under the
8. Personally, if that kid isn't in the counselor's office BEING HEARD AND CARED FOR on a weekly or more often basis for the rest of the school
year, I'd throw a huge (responsible and wise) fit. If I HAD to talk to a church or service club or a cluster of friends and relatives to take up a
collection for family counseling, I would.
Again--CONGRATS on your level-headeness and even-tempered handling of this. You are way head and shoulders above a long list of other parents I've