posted on Aug, 30 2012 @ 12:05 PM
As a single-mother all my adult life (of 2 girls now independent and on their own) I can say that the father does play a significant role in a
child's life... assuming he's empathetic, responsible and mature. My daughters DID need a father, but never really had one ... AND it has affected
them. He was not a good influence, did awful things, and I had to divorce him when they were very little, after a short-term (not quite) 5-year
Here's an example that illustrates what I am referring to, in regards to 'the role of the father in a child's life':
The child is climbing up to the very top of the monkey-bars at the playground and really wants to reach their goal, the top, safely, anticipating the
reward of hearing the applause of both parents.
The MOM says: "Please come down -- I'm getting worried -- you're too high up there -- and it's getting chilly -- you need to put your jacket on."
The DAD says: "You only have two more bars to go -- you can make it to the top -- go for it ... and then come down and put your jacket on."
Whatever children do not get from one parent, they get from the other. Discounting a man's role is unfair.
If he is irresponsible and immature, as was my ex, then the child is better off without a father who is a brainless idiot. Brainless idiots set poor
examples for children whether they are male or female. We also may want to consider many kids grew up just fine being raised by 'women only' or
The problem starts when they are raised by a parent who is 'without empathy' ... abused or exposed to abuse and/or raised in dysfunction and/or
poverty. These are often the sources of the future troubles and problems. I believe the percentage of men VS. women who are
'without-empathy-dysfunctional' is equal. THEY are the problem in today's society.
On another note, if it weren't for men we might want to consider this:
Over the past decades to currently: we wouldn't have the roads, highways, bridges and transportation infrastructure the men built, to drive the cars
they designed, engineered and built, to drive to the shopping-malls that they built for us, and to live in the nice homes they also built to store all
of the stuff we buy at these shopping-malls ... that they built for us.
We shouldn't discount the roles of the opposite sex. It's dividing us -- 'divide and conquer'... not good.
Women enable men to go to work by holding down the fort and caring for the home and children and many bring home a paycheck as well. And some women
have played a role in construction and the infrastructure and are employed in other male-dominated jobs and fields -- I am not discounting them. Some
women played a role and have helped build roads and bridges, and so on ... BUT, they are far and few between. The overwhelming majority was designed,
engineered and built by men. Also, most women will not work outdoors in the extreme temperatures, while many men will ... and do.
I think it makes more sense, at least in my opinion, for us to judge a person based on their core-character -- not their gender or skin color or
political or religious leaning. All of this is dividing us. When it comes to abusive or crazy irresponsible people IMO they are equally male and