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Originally posted by Astyanax
This kind of personal attack is precisely what I would expect from people espousing the attitudes you hold. Unfortunately for the two of you, it doesn't advance your position one inch. All ATS knows what you're like now.
Originally posted by Astyanax
Besides, your offence is not just against your own daughter. You were reading the private messages of other children. Other teenage girls. A grown man secretly reading the messages teenage girls send each other, and exulting in it. How sickening and pathetic.
I wonder if he will dare apologize, though. Imagine confessing what he did to his daughter! Still, that's his only road to redemption, so he should try.
I can relate to what the OP's daughter must be feeling now through some personal experiences of my own.
Originally posted by Spiramirabilis
I've said this other places in this thread - but having your privacy violated is the worst. It can be devastating even when it isn't done to you by someone close. I'm sorry this happened to you. Isn't it interesting how many adults forget what it's like to be a kid?
Originally posted by Numb3r
What exactly should he be apologising for? For disciplining her? For trying to protect her or for loving her?
You my dear you are exactly the kind of armchair expert I was talking about in my rather rude post earlier. No offence but I don't think you have the right to critisize someone on something you know nothing about. I have read this whole thread and the most opinionated posters with the silliest ideas are the ones who have no real experience.
You can wittier on about how disgusting his behaviour was and how he invaded her privacy and try to sound all 21st century earth mothery but it means nothing.
Come back when you have children and experience.
No offence but I don't think you have the right to critisize someone on something you know nothing about. I have read this whole thread and the most opinionated posters with the silliest ideas are the ones who have no real experience.
You can wittier on about how disgusting his behaviour was and how he invaded her privacy and try to sound all 21st century earth mothery but it means nothing.
Come back when you have children and experience.
They should be allowed to make their own mistakes, within reason, and if you demonstrate to them that they can trust you, consistently, they will come to you with their problems and you can help them to resolve them.
And what I always find particularly hypocritical is how many fathers seem to think it is okay to put down women, or objectify them, and then are shocked or outraged when their daughter feels it is okay to be viewed by boys and men in the same way. Even the crappiest of Dad's is a hero in their child's eye, to a point, and that is the model that they will aim to please.
Originally posted by Biliverdin
The ability to reproduce, does not necessarily equate to an ability to parent.
Or as someone else once said, any prick can father a child.
You have heard of the father her and his daughter and her Facebook rant,right?
He posts a vid on YouTube and shoots up her laptop.
Well,I went through a similar situation with my daughter and her iPhone.
But I did not shoot it up,I kept it..
So now I get these messages from boys,I play with them awhile,then I reveal myself to them
I tell them that I know who they are,and I'm keeping an eye on them.
I could go go further with it,but just letting them know that I know about them is enough.
Back in the day,a shotgun was the warning,but I won't go that far.
Am I out of line or being a protective carrying parent.
What are your thoughts.
As I said earlier, I couldn't care less what you do. I just feel sorry for your daughter – and for the poor children whose innocent messages you are snooping on without their knowledge.
Man Arrested For Soliciting Undercover Cop Posing As 14-Year-Old Girl
Originally posted by Numb3r
Wow this is quite a thread!
I've not been a member long at all, and do you know what, after reading this I'm not sure I'll be coming back very often.
But as a parent my self I feel I can contribute without making nonsense comments that are unfounded and un educated.
I think he was within his rights to take the phone, which it seems is agreed by most. Texting back may have been a step too far, getting this much stick is just wrong. I must say that all you people without kids have no idea. Just you wait!
Why is it that the only posters still making stupid comments (that any real parent can see are rubbish) are the ones without kids? My advice, if you don't have an educated opinion keep it shut and let the grown ups talk about grown up stuff. Sonny1, Doubledutch and the other parent still posting, keep up the good work, the rest of you need to go away and come back when you have kids.
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Originally posted by ignorant_ape
reply to post by kdog1982
whats that noise ??? ,,,,,,,,, oh yeh backpeddling