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you don't even have children
But it is actually a reality that parents need to be very concerned about these days. OK
I hope this puts things in perspective and back to the reality of the situation at hand.
So,I have my daughters phone now,the fun begins
Am I out of line or being a protective carrying parent.
Originally posted by sonnny1
Originally posted by 1littlewolf
You really think so? You honestly think that even if they had found guns etc in their kid’s rooms that they couldn’t and wouldn’t have gone ahead with the massacre any way?
I guess if they found pipe bombs,their journals,the plans they left lying around,maybe they would have KNOWN their was a serious problem. Yes,I think the massacre would have been stopped. Although,it is possible for good parents to raise a murder.
Think of this.....
The question of guilt — were the parents guilty? should we blame them? — led me to write a cover story for the New York Times Magazine six months after Columbine, at a time when polls showed 85 percent of Americans held the parents responsible for the shooters’ acts, and when lawsuits were being filed against the families of Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold by the families of the 12 students and one teacher who the boys killed, and the dozens more that they injured.
Do We Blame the Columbine Parents?
Thats a lot of parents searching for answers.......
Again,OP has his way of doing things. I am sitting here right now with my daughter. She totally understands,that what I do,is for her own good. A open relationship with your children is the best thing. She knows plenty of her friends,that their parents can give a rats ass about what they do,and with who.If I want to check my kids iPhone,she hands it to me. Isn't that the respect you folks who are clamoring " that a kids going to rebel if you invade their privacy",want ? . Protecting your children should be a priority. Its too bad people put rules to stigmatize a parent,when they do it. Some psychological know it alls,who believe that its going to blow up in a parents face......
BTW,thanks for at least addressing the question........
I don't care how many of you think it's a false.
But it is actually a reality that parents need to be very concerned about these days. OK
Originally posted by Spiramirabilis
reply to post by doubledutch
you don't even have children
please explain why this is relevant
do you honestly believe that parents are wiser just because they're parents?
you would have to argue then that anything any parent did would be the right thing to do - how could it not be?
they're a parent - they're infallible - right?edit on 2/23/2012 by Spiramirabilis because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by doubledutch
Originally posted by Spiramirabilis
reply to post by doubledutch
you don't even have children
please explain why this is relevant
do you honestly believe that parents are wiser just because they're parents?
you would have to argue then that anything any parent did would be the right thing to do - how could it not be?
they're a parent - they're infallible - right?edit on 2/23/2012 by Spiramirabilis because: (no reason given)
Rally? you want me to explain why being a parent is relevant to this thread...?
OK...I think that parents are better at being parent than people without kids and I think that unless you have got your own children you have no idea what you are talking about. You can theorize all you like but it means nothing.
That's not to say that all parent are right all the time, nooooo way, there are loads of really bad parents out there, but that's not what im talking about.
Being a parent is scary, hard work and most of the time most of us are learning as we go... it's bloody hard, so cut the op some slack is all im saying, and unless you've been there it's not really your place to judge.
Would you tell an engineer how to design a building having never worked in engineering before? i hope not because you'd look really stupid and the building would fall over
enough said
then let's put this thing back in perspective
the fun? his first concern is not about protecting his daughter - it's about messing with her - and her friends
why is he asking - he's a parent - isn't everything he does - as a parent - OK?
you don't care that we think the claim is false - interesting
so - being worried is justification for doing anything you want - even if it's wrong? I guess then that claiming you were were worried would work just as well
Here is the biggest mistake - this idea that somehow things are worse today, and that hyper-vigilance is necessary because of the the times we live in
All parents - my folks, their folks, and then theirs...back as far as you want to go - have had the exact same things to worry about as you do today
It wasn't easier to be a parent in the past - that is pure fantasy. You can't lock your kids in their rooms to protect them - and you can't treat them as less than a person just so you can justify the things you do just so you won't have to worry
You may as well buy your daughters chastity belts while you're at it
Rally? you want me to explain why being a parent is relevant to this thread...?
OK...I think that parents are better at being parent than people without kids and I think that unless you have got your own children you have no idea what you are talking about. You can theorize all you like but it means nothing.
That's not to say that all parent are right all the time, nooooo way, there are loads of really bad parents out there, but that's not what im talking about.
Being a parent is scary, hard work and most of the time most of us are learning as we go... it's bloody hard, so cut the op some slack is all im saying, and unless you've been there it's not really your place to judge
Would you tell an engineer how to design a building having never worked in engineering before? i hope not because you'd look really stupid and the building would fall over
How old are you? You're acting like a snotty teenager. Drop the sarcasm.
This is the first time you have spoken to me. So why don't try to act like adults.
if you're not up for a real discussion - that's OK by me
why is he asking - he's a parent - isn't everything he does - as a parent - OK?
He's asking because all parents at times second guess their decisions. They feel guilt, pressure, they don't want to be the bad guy. Because children play on their parents emotions and parents don't like seeing their children unhappy.
He is looking for advice and support yes. But advice and support from people who have actually been where he is. People who relevant experience to give him advice.
Originally posted by doubledutch
reply to post by Astyanax
ahahahahah
you don't even have children
mate you have no idea what you are talking about
looks like my earlier assessment of this thread was correct.edit on 23-2-2012 by doubledutch because: (no reason given)
the thing of it is - your sons and your daughters are people. You're trying to help them grow into the very best adult people they can be. In order to live up to your expectations and absorb your lessons and advice - they need to know they can trust you. They also should be able to respect you - not just fear you
Now of all your words these are the ones that i 100% agree with, and luckily for my kids this is exactly what they get
out of interest how old are your kids? I have a 3 ranging from 3 to 11 and im constantly learning and adjusting to them growing.. how do you find it?