It looks like you're using an Ad Blocker.
Please white-list or disable AboveTopSecret.com in your ad-blocking tool.
Thank you.
Some features of ATS will be disabled while you continue to use an ad-blocker.
As a teacher, I can tell which kids get hit at home. They're insecure, angry, and have a disproportionate fear of adults. They're also more likely to cheat on a test, 'cause the F brings the belt out. That's a quality life lesson I'm sure will serve them well.
Originally posted by getreadyalready
reply to post by Onboard2
I'd rather my children mind me out of love and respect and not fear.
Either one is fine with me as long as they mind. Actually, why not all three? Why not love, and respect, and fear?
Originally posted by getreadyalready
In my example, as we approach a crosswalk, I tell them to hold my hands (little kids 3-5 year olds), and I tell them to wait at the curb and I tell them to look both ways, etc., etc. BUT, if one tries to jerk their hand away, or takes off running in front of me, I grab them, smack their butts, and then give them a good lecture about minding, and about getting hurt or killed.
Originally posted by getreadyalready
In my opinion, it is unacceptable to fail as a parent. The stakes are too high, and we owe it to our kids to be successful in their rearing. We should be ashamed of ourselves if we don't find some way to reach them and teach them right from wrong.
Originally posted by blaastaaz
The way I see it.
If a child does not believe that a cigarette lighter in the car is hot.
*Do you explain it to them that it's hot?
A lecture is nothing more then a lecture. It proves little in the mind of a child................
They learn very quickly through spankings what is right and what is wrong,............
Originally posted by amazed
What did I do? Instead of using the "instant gratification" demand method of hitting, I used the "take a few extra minutes" technique of thinking of a way to teach them and followed through. I held a piece of paper over the stove and slowly moved it closer to the burner with them watching. When the paper burned I yelled HOT HOT OUCH OUCH DON'T TOUCH! I used my facial expression and body language to CONVEY to them that fire demands respect.
Neither one of my children had to be hit, neither one had to be hurt, neither one had to be put into fear of me hurting them or pain to learn that important lesson.
So, I made it work, how come other parents believe that the ONLY way to teach this lesson is to use pain by either letting the child get burned or hitting the child?
I certainly will never understand that concept. I figured out a way to teach my children without hurting them. I used something called my brain and thought of a way to teach them. Have I made mistakes as a parent? YOU BET! We all have! As soon as I realize I've screwed up, I "step up" and apologize to my children, I USE it as another teaching lesson for my children. I then work at not repeating the same mistake again.
Should all those parents take a course in how to parent?
Originally posted by Equ1nox
anyone who uses any form of hitting/smacking should be ashamed of themselves, i despair reading comments saying that it's ok. It just shows a complete lack of intelligence, whoever hits their children should be hit themselves, see how they like it.