posted on Jan, 29 2012 @ 08:26 PM
reply to post by ALOSTSOUL
I am a big fan of smacking. And it doesn't have to be a specific spanking.
Now, I don't always hit them, because I like to keep em guessing, so I do whatever they least expect at the time, but if I am within reach, and a
quick smack will get their attention and make it memorable, then I use the smack.
Timeouts work well for some kids, taking away some favorite thing might work, even chores might work. Anything that makes them think, makes them
uncomfortable, and makes the event memorable is on the table.
One thing I NEVER do, I never make idle threats. If I threaten a spanking, and they disobey, no matter how comical it is, or how much I don't want
to, I ALWAYS follow through on my threats. For that reason, I rarely threaten them. It took a long time to get that rule through the heads of my
wife and mother-in-law. They were constantly making serious threats, and then they didn't want to follow through, but I never let them get away with
it. Many nights at Nanny's house got cancelled because Nanny, or Mama made a threat that if they didn't stop something, they couldn't come over,
and they didn't stop, and I didn't let them come over. I usually got the silent treatment for the night, or sometimes the whole weekend, but
eventually they stopped making idle threats, LOL!
I let my kids get away with quite a bit, but once I speak, they mind. I am proud to say they are the absolute best-behaved kids at karate class, and
baseball, and in any restaurant you will ever see. Not just a bragging dad either.