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Originally posted by DarthOej
Just to clarify, it isn't something that I will take lightly. My folks certainly didn't. It probably hurt them just as much, if not more, than it did me. It was just the way they do things. No sane person enjoys doing that.
I don't want to be mislabeled as a violent psychopath.
Yeah, even putting your finger in a kids face should be illegal. Really yelling too loud should be illegal, you could scare them. Any form of punishment, should actually be outlawed. If kids don't know any better why should they be in trouble by another human that also makes mistakes. For example my oldest son punched my youngest son in the face, so I said, hey if you don't punch him anymore I'll give you money. He said, "Ok Dad." He stopped punching him all the way until the next day. Now, every time he punches him I just give em money and he stops.
Originally posted by sdocpublishing
I agree 100% it is a Fathers right to smack the ass of his children, especially the boys.
I have never had a daughter, so I can't speak there but I smacked the ass of both my boys when they were young and with great results.
I didn't blacken their eyes, I didn't leave welts on their body, no bones were ever broken and blood was never shed.
Originally posted by dharvell
A lot of the against-spanking crowd seem to share a misconception: that the purpose of spanking is to cause harm or pain to the child being spanked. NOT TRUE!!! I am very much pro-spanking.
Originally posted by SyphonX
Any form of punishment, physical, or mental, is unacceptable.. in my opinion. That doesn't mean I believe "the law" should interfere. I believe the authorities shouldn't interfere unless in circumstances of actual abuse.
A child that is 'unruly' and doesn't respond to their parents, is a sign of a parent that is probably absent from their children's lives. Too many 'adults' today believe that a child should 'naturally develop', and they're just babysitting temporarily. These 'adults' tend to allow the government to supervise their children for more of it's natural life than the actual parents do. Some call this school.
It's usually a sign of a "wage-slave" family, "trying to make ends meet", where they are never present during their child's upbringing. I'd argue that's it's rare you would see a misbehaved child when the parents are present for most of his or her life. Physically hitting a child, or coming up with bizarre mental abuse punishment rituals (isolation, etc.), is the response from a parent that has failed to be a parent.
Originally posted by Thunder heart woman
I do NOT believe in getting physical with our children. It's disgusting, cruel, antiquated, abusive, ridiculous, and it makes you a BULLY.
Originally posted by ALOSTSOUL
MP's have said in the media this week that the UK riots where caused by the lack of physical discipline, not the lack of jobs, education and a decent family lifestyle.
The Tottenham MP David Lammy claimed that Labour's 2004 decision to tighten up the smacking law was partly to blame for last summer's riots, which erupted in his north London constituency.
For you yanks out there, it is against the law in Great Britain to smack (spank) your child, although I have never heard of someone being convicted of it.
Personally I am undecided somtimes I think children do need a smack every now and then, mainly for there own sake. Lets say my daughter puts her finger in the plug socket do I give her a little slap (on the hand) and say "no, don't touch or it will hurt worse than that." luckly i haven't had to yet, she is still to young to crawl.
I understand that we live in different times (hell, I got a leather belt if I was naughty) but a complete lack of physical discipline can't be good for a Childs development can it?
I don't know, it's a very touchy issue, what are your views.
edit on 29-1-2012 by ALOSTSOUL because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by getreadyalready
reply to post by ALOSTSOUL
One thing I NEVER do, I never make idle threats. If I threaten a spanking, and they disobey, no matter how comical it is, or how much I don't want to, I ALWAYS follow through on my threats. For that reason, I rarely threaten them. It took a long time to get that rule through the heads of my wife and mother-in-law. They were constantly making serious threats, and then they didn't want to follow through,
Originally posted by Starwise
I remember a time when I was young, maybe 10 or 11, I flipped off a neighbor just to see his reaction....He told my mom...Oh gosh.... I begged for a whipping instead of what she did, and that was restriction to my room..FOR A MONTH. After that month, any time I got into trouble, it was restriction to my room. I used to beg for a beating just to get it over with I remember.....
The outcome of it all by the time I moved out at 16 was......I naturally became a recluse. I still feel more comfortable indoors isolated and away from everyone reading a book. How normal is that? I have to work VERY hard in social situations. Was I abused? Yes, the abuse of isolation can at times be worse than a sore tail....
Originally posted by greeneyedleo
reply to post by greeneyedleo
Absolutely not. Do I come across as someone who lets anyone get away with anything?
My daughter is almost 8. I have never ever needed to hurt her. Never. She is a good kid and when she is acting up, I never lose control and I have alternative means of disciplining her.
I truly believe a lot of kids issues are..............the parents themselves....edit on January 29th 2012 by greeneyedleo because: (no reason given)