Originally posted by OUTofSTEPwithTHEworld
My mom has told me that EXACT same thing.
When my twin cousins would come over from lancaster she wouldn't let them sleep in the same room as me. they would like sleeping on my bed (queen) because they would both fit. after a few times that they slept in my bed and i crashed on the floor, she said that she does NOT want me sleeping in the same room as them because she was SCARED THAT I MIGHT TOUCH THEM OR SOMETHING. that happened when i was 16 and it really got me down, i now understand tho.edit on 7-12-2011 by OUTofSTEPwithTHEworld because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by ShyTatt
reply to post by BrokenCircles
@1littlewolf on ur post
Much of our society still remains conditioned to believe that:
Long Hair, Beard, Tattoos = Bad Guy
Well Groomed, Clean Shaven, Suit & Tie = Good Guy
I see this far too often as I have 2 almost full sleeves, I get the looks and judgement so much that I even lost a job based on the stories people made up about me being a criminal. What I don't understand is why the tattoos make such a difference in what people think. I have short hair, am a well groomed clean cut guy who dresses nice (not suit nice). I'm quiet, a very nice guy, polite and everything. I just did 8 yrs in the Marine Corps and got into tattoos.... I would think that my service, manors, demeanor, dress and overall clean cut appearance would tip thew scales in my favor with people, but I still get discriminated against regularly. I even stopped a toddler, who's mother wasn't paying attention to, from getting hit by a door only to have her grab him real quick and move him away from me with a look on her face that said she thought I was trying to kidnap him.
Originally posted by BrokenCircles
Much of our society still remains conditioned to believe that:
[color=FF7B61]= Bad Guy
[color=7AFF7A]Suit & Tie
[color=7AFF7A]= Good Guy
9 times out of 10, it's the guy in the suit that you should keep your eye on.
Originally posted by 74Templar
On the other hand however, this type of behaviour is sadly becoming more common these days, it seems pedophaelia and child snatching seems to be on the rise across Australia, and with that in mind I would hope in a real situation there would be people willing to not look the other way and stand up if such a thing were occuring in a public place around you.
I once had a similar situation with my girls a few years ago, when my youngest needed to go to the toilet. As I stated I am a single dad, so I needed to take my daughter into the male toilets as there is no other choice. I also had to take my eldest in with me, for obvious reasons, and when we exited a woman confronted me about how disgusting it was I took my daughters into a male toilet. I thought of many responses and justifications, but instead very loudly replied "Would you rather me leave them out here on their own so a psycho like you can run off with them?" Needless to say the conversation was ended very quickly.
I would personally write a letter of complaint to both the local council and the lifeguard association to make them aware of the situation, not so much to get anyone in trouble, but maybe to educate them in the fact the world is changing, and that we dads have just as much rights as anyone else.
Originally posted by BlueBanshee
You write a great story. I can really imagine what it was like that day on the beach from the picture you paint with words. I have not heard a story like this before. It is also nice to get a man's perspective about the world, even though the circumstances are quite sad. I am sure there are more men with experiences like this though.
I do not know if it is the media or just society in general but it seems as if people more easily to jump to ill-formed opinions about total strangers.
It really does not surprise me the lengths that someone will go to while being completely prejudice. I dont know if people realize when they do this but I wish more people were aware of it when they are.
I have had people on the street and in stores walk up to me and say the rudest things. The woman in the purple one-piece reminds me of these strangers I've met ever so briefly. I am a tall, thin and delicately built woman. I know what people first think when they see me for the first time. I have had quite a few stranger's say to me that I am anorexic, ask if I am anorexic and also I've had people comment about the groceries I buy. One incident at the grocery store I had to pull my boyfriend away from a guy who walked up to me and said I needed to eat more. After that I was feeling a little insecure and concerned something was wrong with me. So I went to visit my doctor and asked him. I know he was humoring me when he gave me a physical examination because when he concluded he said to me basically "you know nothing is wrong with you, sometimes people just stick their noses where they dont belong."
haha, he is a funny doctor and I couldn't agree more with his diagnosis.
I can only imagine what would have happened if your kids did not answer when called. I am so glad that did not happen to you!
Originally posted by Awoken4Ever
Not for nothing OP, but if you really look at your own writing, you are just as guilty as the woman on the beach, and finding fault with it. Although it was my favorite line and I laughed out loud on it, "as I watched this human walrus shuffle off across the sand..." You judged her, and yet you find fault for judging you.
I loved what you are saying in general, but yes that is the kind of a society we live in now. There are a lot of monsters out there, and they have ruined things bad enough for the good guys. I absolutely love and adore children. I love playing with them, I love talking with them, and I love making them laugh. There is nothing closer removed from the source than children, and I love witnessing that power. I have no problem going down to their level and acting like a big kid myself. However, I have learned, especially since I have gotten older, that I need to be extremely careful of what other perception can be. I have actually pulled back having any kind of real interaction with children because I am deathly afraid of some kooks like what you experienced on the beach, misinterpreting my intentions. I don't have the clean cut look at all, do have tattoos, and notice how society judges me as a whole all the time. The other day I was at the supermarket and there was this little old lady outside struggling to get to her car with her basket. I walked over to offer assistance if I could, and you should of seen the way she looked at me. You would think by her look that I was there to rob her or something. It really broke my heart that she was in clear need of some assistance, and she wouldn't accept it because of what she perceived me as.
Kids are a big no-no in life as you start getting older. It troubles me because I don't have any kids of my own, love them to death, but can't interact with them because of how paranoid as a society we have gotten. It's a shame to because I am so awesome with them, and they always fall in love with me
Thanks for the topic and the story though. It's not talked about enough IMO.
The ones who look a little differently are often the ones who you can trust the most, for they do not have ihe inclination to hide aspects of their personality
Originally posted by NuclearPaul
Worn by bankers, politicians and used car salesmen. The uniform of deceivers.
"Look at my good clothes. I must be a good person". A simple trick that is highly effective on simple minds.
Unfortunately, low vibration people have very little instinct or intuition and have no choice but to rely on what they have been told to decide a person's character.
It really isn't hard to spot the pedos when you can read a person's energies.
Originally posted by LogiosHermes27
Wearing European thongs at a beach taking pictures isn’t really the best solution.. You think!
Originally posted by doogle
I have four children in my life aged 18, 12, 6 and 1. All of them belong to my brother and sister-in-law. My eldest niece is just about to turn 13 a couple of days after Christmas, and she is very bright and bubbly and loves to hang around with me when I go over to visit.
The other week one of my friends went there with me and saw how I was torturing her with tickles and stuff, like I do the other three too (even my 18 year old nephew) and he said jokingly "Is this the next girlfriend then?"
Since then, my brother has said to me that I should distance myself from her as people might think there's something else going on with us. He has a reason though, a few years ago he was himself accused of doing stuff with a young girl in his care, and it ruined his life, even though the girl who accused him later admitted to making it all up!edit on 9/12/2011 by doogle because: Missed some detail.
Originally posted by Awoken4Ever
reply to post by 1littlewolf
I completely agree with you. They are the most amazing thing on the planet. I did get the joy of raising a little boy, but he is not in my life at all anymore, and I haven't seen him in over 8 years now, and never will again. He wasn't my child, but I did raise him. I am at a point in life where I will never get to have children now based off my age. It is the one thing I will always truly regret that I will take to my grave. In a lot of ways, I am glad I never brought a child into this horror of a world, but for selfish reasons, I will always regret it.
I am in my 40's and I will never grow up, so I know what you mean about feeling 14. Children are truly the greatest gift on this planet, and the best gift God ever gave me was that time with my son.
Till my dying days I will never, ever, understand why anyone would hurt a child in any capacity (physically, mentally, or sexually). God may be upset with me about a few things in life, but we are definitely going to have a little chat about that one day!