Originally posted by celticdog
Most women who have weight problems have some sort of issue.
Umm, excuse you?
I suppose you know all women with weight issues. No, the ONLY issue most women with weight problems have is society shoving it down our throats (haha,
pun) that because we're over weight, we're worth less than underweight, scrawny starlets that look half boy.
When a normal sized woman of say 5'5 and 115- 120 lbs is told she's too fat.. THAT is an issue.
The woman in question probably THOUGHT she saw a guy perving on some kids, she did what you would HOPE a good citizen would do.. Not like the people
that listened to a woman be beaten to death over the course of a couple hours and did nothing, or the people that WATCHED a girl get raped and did
nothing. Her size has NOTHING to do with it and that you should think that because she was fat, she obviously has some problems is completely
I do not think that people should be judged on their looks. Especially, as has been pointed out, the most horrifying people have looked like the clean
cut guy next door. And tats shouldn't even be a factor in an open minded society, as many people are getting tattoos as a means of self expression
and have NO affiliation with violence or crime.
It is true, we women are CONDITIONED to be wary of men, to not trust them. We are taught that even the men in our lives that we should be able to
trust, our fathers, our uncles, we have to watch them in case they're too free with their hands. When we were taught about safety and stranger danger
in school, it's always a MALE. Though I have to say, anyone that gets afraid and crosses a street to scurry away from people they see threatening,
has just made themselves a target IF that person IS a predator of some kind. You carry yourself with self confidence, like you can handle yourself,
you have nothing to worry about, they want weak and easy prey. You scuttle away, they think gotcha.
But at the same time, it's sad that we have men afraid to hug their own children in public. That can't take pictures of their own children in
public. There has to be a line drawn somewhere between wanting to keep children safe, and NOT driving their fathers away from giving the children the
affection they need. Too few fathers are involved in their childrens' lives, making it harder for the REAL MEN that are there for their children and
are being good fathers to their children isn't conducive to the idea that men are an intrinsic part of the raising of children. Yes single mothers do
a good job of raising children, but I don't think anyone feels that is ideal. Children need their fathers and we need to allow the real men that step
up to the plate to actually BE real fathers to their children, rather than branding them criminals for innocent activities.
Even though I am a woman, I can relate to what the OP went through. I am multiracial and clearly not white. The father is my children IS white, and
they have inherited his complexion, and so to most peoples eyes, they are white. Few people see me as the mother of my own children when I travel with
them, even when the children call me "Mom". It is always assumed I am the foster mother, stepmother, babysitter or nanny. I know that shocked and
ashamed look on the lifeguards face, because I have seen it many times when I state, no I am their biological mother, would you like to do a DNA test?