reply to post by wildtimes
"If anyone has read the books by profilers of serial killers or their ilk, and studied the profiling field itself, you might have been exposed to the
concept of how HARD it is to NOT become a victim to these very skilled con-artists."
Indeed, our psychopath friends do have endearing qualities.
having been on Earth many years I too have seen them come and go. depending upon ones own experience / observation, reflection, wants and needs, we
are at differing levels of danger. little things can mean so much, like learning to listen to gut instinct. and having someone in your life point out
how important gut instinct and awareness is.
my Nephew is one of the most well read and intelligent people I know. he once told me he felt that if the leaders of America were given psychological
examinations most of them would be found unfit to hold their posts. after much thought, I concur. actions speak louder than words.
I've realized many things make sense if one is willing to realize mankind is insane. Some hide it more well than others. Some cope better than
others. some people live in hell every day, in severe madness. life can be so unkind. It is only man judging man, arriving at agreed upon conclusions
of what is and what is not acceptable or suitable. Noting similarities of characteristics and placing them into categorizations for the purpose of
convenience. Like so many sciences, as advanced as we are, we've only barely begun to scratch the surface.
I have spent time in lock-down psychiatric wards as an end-user of the mental health care system several times. Comparing those people I met and lived
amongst to how people behave & treat each other on the Internet, I'd take the broken people any day.
Several Doctors have told me approximately 1 in 100 people are a psychopath. Reminds me of a lyric from an old Jackson Browne song: "..people walking
down the street like they're safe or something..". Psychopaths and other people with labels of mental illness are all around you most every day,
unless you barely come into contact with population.
Most of these people pose no physical threat; popular TV shows like "Law & Order" blow things way out of proportion. On behalf of people who cope
with bi-polar life every day I'd personally like to bitch-slap that shows writing staff. Not a week goes by when the L&O franchise doesn't have a
bi-polar off their meds and rippin' up the town. Idiots spreading untruths, not good.
As for psychopath manipulation, well, we are all manipulators, salesmen, most every day. Choosing what movie to go see among your group of friends, it
is she who sells her point of view, who sells herself, the most well that sways the group to their decision. and so it goes. Some are more charming
than others, some are more transparent and accordingly may be unliked, because we can 'see through them'.
The unique part of the psychopath, from what I'm told, is how they are 'wired' differently from many others. Unable to empathize or sympathize they
are like a human version of a shark. Does this mean they are graced with superior cunning, intellect or charm? Able to sweep women off their feet and
fit in oh-so-nicely with the crowd? No. No it doesn't. The psychopath I knew in my childhood is not welcome in my home or my presence in adulthood.
He was the child of parents whom my parents were friends with. He lived in the neighborhood so he was part of that life, so long ago. I and others my
age were there by circumstance beyond our control.
'they' are much like everyone else who wants and desires. ultimately we are responsible for our own actions. everything we do or say etcetera. sorry
to simplify but i think if one has been manipulated by a psychopath it is because they have voluntarily placed their self in that circumstance. there
are exceptions, as when one is a victim who is being held or restrained against their will. another exception is a dictatorship led by a psychopath
who wields enforcement against a people.
we live and hopefully we learn. at the end of the day what matters is how you respond when the lightbulb finally goes on and you realize you are in an
what you do in future contact with a person having psychopathic traits will reveal if you have learned and grown as well as will reveal if you have a
propensity to give your will over to a force, for whatever reason that may be.
Thank you for letting me share my two cents.