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Originally posted by Benevolent Heretic
Originally posted by Deus_Brandon
if I am reading you correctly
I seriously doubt that you are. You seem highly agitated with me simply because we have a difference of opinion.
I have already answered your question. I said I wish euthanasia were an option for parents like these. Not slitting the child's throat (a little dramatic and emotional, don't you think?) but death with dignity for the parents who wouldn't want to put their child through what they consider to be a life of suffering.
Now, do you mind answering my question with an actual answer instead of answering it with a question?
Originally posted by Deus_Brandon
What happens when ashley's parents .... Are unable to care for her anymore
Originally posted by Deus_Brandon
I would never give up hope that something may happen that may cause scientist to be able to change things that have happened.
Originally posted by Deus_Brandon
They aren't even giving her the time to grow up ... and become whatever miracle baby that she could possibly become ... They basically lost thier faith in her overcoming any adversary
Originally posted by Deus_Brandon
... That is like telling someone they can't do SOMETHING ... TRY TELLING YOUR KID THAT THEY CAN'T DO SOMETHING ... See how they respond ... And if you don't believe in your kid .. What good are you !?!?!
Originally posted by Deus_Brandon
My child could be borned with one hand on it's lower extremity's and one foot growing out the side of it's head ...
Originally posted by Benevolent Heretic
What negative effect will this have on Ashley's life? For those of you who oppose it, how do you think this is hurting the child?
...
I mean how specifically is Ashley going to suffer over and above letting her develop 'normally'.
Originally posted by Benevolent Heretic
Originally posted by Deus_Brandon
My child could be borned with one hand on it's lower extremity's and one foot growing out the side of it's head ...
And you wouldn't have them surgically removed??? They serve no purpose and your child could live a more normal life and you'd subject him to the taunting of other children and the stares of ignorant people all his life??? You'd choose the pain of living a life as an outcast for your child instead of doing what you could medically to make him more 'normal'?
And you're calling Ashley's parent's cruel?
And you DIDN'T answer my question. I didn't ask about your hypothetical child. I asked
Originally posted by Benevolent Heretic
What negative effect will this have on Ashley's life? For those of you who oppose it, how do you think this is hurting the child?
...
I mean how specifically is Ashley going to suffer over and above letting her develop 'normally'.
SPECIFICALLY about Ashley, not about a hypothetical case.
Originally posted by Deus_Brandon
She will not be able to have kids of her own because her parents basically GAVE UP ON THAT FOR HER ... What then ??? IS all I am asking ... IN the circumstance ... that that was to happen what would you tell your kiDD !!
Originally posted by Benevolent Heretic
What specifically is wrong with what these parents did? What negative effect will this have on Ashley's life?
Originally posted by dollmonster
The more I think about this, the more I think these parents were selfish for what they did. Two people can easily handle one emaciated person. I think stunting her growth and natural development was solely for their own benefit. Keeping her "baby like" throughout her life makes it a lot easier for them not to become disgusted caring for her year after year.
Originally posted by Benevolent Heretic
Originally posted by Deus_Brandon
She will not be able to have kids of her own because her parents basically GAVE UP ON THAT FOR HER ... What then ??? IS all I am asking ... IN the circumstance ... that that was to happen what would you tell your kiDD !!
In that impossible circumstance, I would tell my kid that that we did what we thought was the very best thing for her. We have a 99.9999999999% chance that she will never develop. Why plan and act as if we're counting on the .0000000001% happening, when there are so many downsides to that?
Brandon, this child will never develop beyond 3 months old. If, by some miracle, by some minute chance that defies all odds, she should happen to break out of this disease and continue to mature mentally, I would explain to her that everything we did was done out of love for her and to allow her to have the best experience of life possibe.
And if your scenario would develop and she decided she wanted to have kids, she could adopt. I can't have kids and if I really wanted to, I'd adopt. It's not the end of the world.
So, is that the answer to my question? What the parents have done that hurt Ashley is taken away any chance for her to bear children (in that impossible scenario that she should happen to somehow "overcome" her diagnosis)?
Originally posted by chissler
Originally posted by dollmonster
The more I think about this, the more I think these parents were selfish for what they did. Two people can easily handle one emaciated person. I think stunting her growth and natural development was solely for their own benefit. Keeping her "baby like" throughout her life makes it a lot easier for them not to become disgusted caring for her year after year.
But you have clearly laid out the problem in itself. "Both" parents may not be home or present all of the time, which is going to leave the brunt of the responsibility on one of the parents. If the mother is not capable of moving a full grown child, then Ashley is going to be forced to remain in one position for the majority of the day. Bed sores will be sure to develop and leave the child in possible agony. The pain the sores themselves are going to inflict is hypothetical at best, but the sores themselves can be guaranteed. If both parents were going to be home all of the time, then I would agree with what you have to say. But the fact is, they need to assure that one parental guardian can care for this child as well as two can.
If you are completely bedridden, would you prefer to be 200 pounds or 75 pounds? Would you want sagging breasts to add to the discomfort? What of menstrual cramps?
Exactly how does Ashley's parents benefit from her not having menstrual cramps? How do they benefit from any of this? Making strides to donate the rest of your life to a cause, is selfish?
In my opinion, it is anything but.
Edit:
Has it been made clear that a board of Ethics actually examined this case before any of the surgeries were performed? The ethical content of this case had been thoroughly examined and they still decided to perform the surgeries.
[edit on 14-1-2007 by chissler]
Originally posted by Deus_Brandon
The day we start using ETHICS that we have learned ... Through SCIENCE instead of ETHICS that were given to us by COMMON SENSE ... is the day we will take "In God we Trust" off our money and that is not to far away ..
Originally posted by Deus_Brandon
YOu say that so easily ..." Yes, daughter I gave up on you .... "
Originally posted by chissler
Originally posted by Deus_Brandon
The day we start using ETHICS that we have learned ... Through SCIENCE instead of ETHICS that were given to us by COMMON SENSE ... is the day we will take "In God we Trust" off our money and that is not to far away ..
Pardon my ignorance, but can you please translate exactly what you are trying to say?
What I have grasped is that we should not use our "ethics" in "scientific matters", even though by your own admition, it is "common sense". Is it just me or is this a complete contradiction.
Originally posted by Benevolent Heretic
Originally posted by Deus_Brandon
YOu say that so easily ..." Yes, daughter I gave up on you .... "
You say that so dramatically.
I wouldn't have given up on my daughter. I would have forfeited her .00000001% chance of having a child in exchange for giving her a much richer experience of life. An easy decision from where I stand.
And I would gladly take the negative, holier-than-thou judgments of people like you who would stand outside the situation and judge me for the decisions I made for MY daughter out of pure love.
[edit on 14-1-2007 by Benevolent Heretic]
Originally posted by chissler
All of which is your opinion.
I would think that it would take more than your own opinion to come to any conclusions on another individual.
Especially two people that have made the efforts that they have.
They can not make decisions today based on what might be possible in ten, twenty, or thirty years.
If their child continues to grow, they will not be able to provide the proper care. The mother can not maneuver Ashley if she weights much more than eighty pounds.
Having made the decision, or had they not, we can only speculate to the degree of suffering Ashley is enduring. Speculation is hardly enough to make any definitive conclusions.
Originally posted by riley
Funny that.. it is a discussion board..
Originally posted by riley
How about the opinion that all people, including the disabled, are entitled to basic human rights? She is her own individual. Where do people draw the line.. chopping the legs of paraplegics or only the paraplegics with low IQs? Chissler.. I'd like to know under what circumstances you think it's okay to deliberately [further] disable someone. How disabled do they have to be before it becomes morally okay?
Originally posted by riley
The 'effort' of maiming their daughter. I know many people who care for disabled relatives.. it's never occured to them to injure them further. Are you even going to address the other points I made? The post op pain. The pumping full of hormones? Imagine the outcry if this was done to a normal child. I can guarentee it would be called inhumane. How is this not inhumane?
Originally posted by riley
In fact they did.. at least waiting doesn't permanently damage her. In regard to medical advances.. there is that much money being poured into stem cell research and into brain damage that it's a probabilty that many disabled people could be cured.
Originally posted by riley
They won't be there to give her proper care anyway.. they will eventually die and someone else will care for her so that argument only works if they intend to outlive her.
Originally posted by riley
They carved out her breast buds, her uterus, pumped her full of hormones and are making sure she stays the size of a child for the rest of her life. Theres no speculating here; only stating the obvious.