posted on Aug, 8 2019 @ 10:35 AM
Took my dad three marriages to find the wife for life, and my mother is twice divorced and not really relationship material at all, even as a
Neither gave me advice, I just observed their track records and aimed to not do the same things leading to screwing up. I also observed friends who go
through life as serial marriage people, and frankly, found their half-assed relationship effort a good reason to do better myself. The common threads
were selfish, self-centered expectations/demands without reciprocation (my mother & friends) and picking the wrong people for your personality (my
Best advice I gave myself was the spouses come first, since the marriage is the foundation for life. "For the kids" is consistently the biggest
mistake I've seen people order their lives by. No, the kids have to be second place. If mom and dad aren't in a solid, well-tended relationship, then
"for the kids" doesn't mean jack sh#. BTDT, if my mother had spent even a fraction of the time communicating to and working with my dad on their
marriage as she did demanding things of him & shelling out for crap & saying it would make life better, maybe they could have avoided a divorce. Or
maybe not, most men tire of materialistic serial shopper wives.
You marry another human, another breathing, thinking, feeling person. Not a walking credit card or household decoration to just have around & look
at/bang once in a while. Treat them like they actually mean something paramount & critical to you. Show them that and show it often.
If you can't do that, the bulk of problems might just lead back to you there.