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originally posted by: IanMoone2
Massive doses of '___'. Wow. Censored. L-S-D. There, is that better?
It actually showed promised when studied for this back in the 50's. 2016 Study
While not a cure in and of itself, it might just help kickstart that spiritual journey that will lead to permanent change.
originally posted by: Boadicea
a reply to: rickymouse
I think I'm going to have to research the meds and reactions and understand the whys and wherefores a little better before approaching him. Especially in terms of his Navajo genetics, which I know present additional complications.
It would not surprise me if he refused any drugs as well. He was raised all-natural, much like my own kids, and I know he doesn't even like taking ibuprofen or Benadryl. So if he's ready to do this, he may want to stick to his natural roots.
So I will also research helpful and healing foods, and perhaps nutritional supplements. "Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food!"
originally posted by: soulwaxer
originally posted by: Boadicea
a reply to: NJE777
When they were kids, I used to smear cream cheese or peanut butter on celery for them... I can always do it again!
I think that's my best approach with him anyway is for me to make the most of the bonds we made in his childhood. That will be our greatest strength or resource I think. Perhaps if he knows that I still know him and love him as that person -- before all this -- and that he can still be that person, it will help him see that person inside too.
Or maybe I'm just talking crazy talk. I don't know.
This advice to yourself is the best I've read here and relates to another member's advice. Alcohol is not the only problem. There is also the hole he is trying to fill, and that hole is often created in childhood (or in some genetic way, or both). Reconnecting him to positive experiences in his childhood is psychologically a very good thing to do. This will effect his unconscious, which is mainly what is driving his behaviour.
Great intuition. If anyone in his circles is going to help him help himself, it will most likely be you.
soulwaxer
originally posted by: Boadicea
originally posted by: dasman888
The fact he can ADMIT he is broken... is a huge blessing.
When real alcoholics show up to AA, and they have finally been beaten down hard enough to admit they are powerless, on their own, against their alcoholism... they have, what folks in my circle call, "the gift of desperation".
And it REALLY CAN be an extraordinary gift.
That was kinda sorta my thought. But you really put it into focus for me. I can see that.
I'm also encouraged that he reached out to my son. It was really tough for my son to find out his friend is going through this. My son thought he was just busy working and spending time at his cabin.. My son had no idea that's why he wasn't around any more.
I will also tell you this... the AA Program, as it was originally articulated in the textbook I mentioned, is VERY VERY POWERFUL. If someone has had enough, and is willing to do the work... they WILL get better.
It's very very simple... and anyone can do it. It is not easy though. It is some hard work... but work worth doing, especially when you do enough to see the glimpse of what is possible. It WORKS. And new folks need only look around the room at other hopeless alkies, some, who maybe were even WORSE off than they were... and they are SOBER NOW.
It's a powerful thing.
I will definitely check out AA meetings -- the original AA practice. It sounds like it may be just the thing for him.
May I ask, is this something I can attend with him? At least the first meeting? Or something he needs to do alone? (Though I will gladly take him and wait for him).
I am full on blessed FAR beyond merit, I assure you ;-)
Good.
originally posted by: Boadicea
a reply to: one4all
Thank you again!
You make a very good point. Alcohol does have medicinal and healing properties -- I always keep brandy on hand for that very reason, and everyone knows it's medicine in our house!
One thing I read that struck me as important was to be clear alcohol in and of itself isn't the problem, and he himself is not the problem, it's the combination that is the problem. For whatever reason, his physiology and his use of alcohol just aren't compatible. And it's all compounded when emotional issues get tied up in it all too. A fire that feeds itself. But the main thing to remember is that he's not responsible for the chemical reactions so to speak, but he is responsible for understanding it is a problem for him and taking appropriate action.
Boadicea, I urge you to realize that asking him to start fixing and addressing everything right off the bat is NOT a good idea.
Believe me, he will know how much there is that he's got to address. He will have a much better chance of staying sober if he approaches it this way: just get through each day without picking up a drink. If he can do that, everything else will get taken care of when it needs to get taken care of.
Keep it simple... you probably heard everything you needed to move forward in the first couple pages of suggestions.
Make SURE to check out the National Council on Alcoholism link I put up early in this conversation.
Looked for a way to PM you... not sure how to do it. Not real regular here.
originally posted by: Boadicea
originally posted by: mysterioustranger
a reply to: Boadicea
There is no good or best time. They are alcoholic 24-7. Gotta get help w strength in numbers and try as best as you all can to band together to make your point. It will probably fall on deaf ears though.
Okay... thank you. My son is going to invite him to Sunday dinner. We'll just have to see where it goes.
Never give up trying to get thru...never stop spreading the love. My mother-in-law has had so many brain cells damaged she barely remembers the last 60 yrs.
Fight the good fight, and don't stop trying. Keep up with us...I'm rooting for you.And God Bless you for caring!
MS
Thank you. We won't give up. We can't give up. But we may have to be patient and understanding. That may be the hardest part.
originally posted by: Boadicea
a reply to: one4all
No worries -- I'm paying attention.
And, in fact, after reading your first post, I did some more checking around and found that cannabis -- particularly high CBD oil -- is a very potent anti-parasitic, AND is excellent for alcohol withdrawal symptoms. High CBD oil has already proven itself to me, and I long ago found an excellent source for the oil, produced via CO2 extraction as opposed to alcohol.
Here's one article that explains how the alcohol and CBDs affect the cannabinoid receptors:
CBD for Alcoholism: How Cannabis Can Alleviate the Effects of Withdrawal
originally posted by: Flyingclaydisk
a reply to: one4all
Boy, you really (REALLY) like the words "anti-parasitic" and "parasites", don't you???
Holy mackerel! I don't think I've seen those words used so many times in my lifetime!!