a reply to: hutch622
Things are really awry. To keep you up to date, and its taken a month for me to reply. I am the lowest I have ever felt.
Daughter had a holiday with friends and got away for 2 weeks with another family up north from us. Took a shine to their son whom I figured was
alright. Both parents hard workers as was the lad, Came back and things were rosy. Young man came and stayed. Hard working young chap, 6 days a
week and all.
Anyway turns out he brought some "weed" with him. The weed was taken by one of his stupid friends who was also visiting. As you could imagine there
was a bit of # stirring in that circle.
I got the young man aside and told him, in no uncertain terms that there will be no marijuana in my house. Also no other drugs. Boy dumps daughter
because of this it seems.
Daughter wants to be able to have drugs in the house. Sorry, but no. The self harm started again. Her anger spilled over onto the local school bus
where she was told to stop swearing on the local bus and answered the bus driver referring to the other half dozen kids, "I'll stab them". Bus
driver, good friend, rings my wife and reports that she is over the top. The changeover bus to high school reports she cannot be trusted. Swears and
threatens other kids, including young ones.
We were informed of this where at that time she was at a friends place up the road. (rural). I informed the police who turned up after she turned up
home stoned off her eyeballs. I felt sorry for the young local constable who arrived seemingly had his hands tied but did ask some questions.
I treated the threat to stab kids on the bus seriously but when questioned about this she said it was just a joke. I explained I fear, due to her
mental health when under the influence, she may carry out these actions of stabbing someone else of taking the self harm a bit further.
Well anyway, the result was she rang someone. And took off last night. Then at midnight contacted my wife requesting to be picked up from the
"house" where it all happens. My lovely wife did so with the help of my eldest son and his friends.
This morning she has rung again to be picked up and taken off.
Facts: I'm not allowed to prevent her doing these things. She is a state ward. Considered a young adult. Family and Community Services have been
notified. Our personal belongings are disappearing. She admits she smokes everyday. She has said she is leaving and never coming back. When the
police constable asked her what she thought of me she said straight away "He's a "C". My wife and I were present at this juncture. Admittedly she
was high at that time.
So for anyone following this thread I feel we have done everything we can to help her. I find it difficult to leave the family home. She also
records any conversations and videos anyone in the house. You don't know this until you actually see the phone pointing at you. While talking to the
police officer we walked outside and she followed filming the officer so I ushered him a little bit further away to talk to him confidentially. She
snuck around the house, gently opened a window and I didn't see her filming the entire conversation about drug use and where I believe she's getting
them until that conversation was finished.
Well mate, I feel a little depressed, can't sleep and don't even want to go to work today. Thanks for your thoughts. I will update. Having a rest
to get my head around this and may go to work later.