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originally posted by: SLAYER69
a reply to: Peeple
In order to truly appreciate a 'High" one would have to know how bad a 'Low' could be?
Everyones bottom is different.
What difference does it make how the lesson is learned as long as the change is made?
originally posted by: Mjab6910
All this forgive, have empathy, compassion, & love is just not realistic.
It's a nice thought, truly it is, but just not realistic as long as evil exists.
originally posted by: SLAYER69
ETA: I'm sorry to hear about your daughters situation, as you said she has chosen to stay in the relationship. Sad but true, no one is telling you, you have to feel this or that way towards him. That's your choice, your right to feel the way you do. But it's not your life, it's her, isnt it? She is making her own choices based on what she values.
That's part of what I meant when I wrote, "I'm just me" I'm not responsible for others actions or reactions. we can't control people, places, situations or things beyond our control.
I guess thats where a certain level of acceptance comes in, whether we like it or not, we have to accept that a daughter has chosen to stick with it for whatever reason
No?
originally posted by: Mjab6910
So I'm just supposed to forgive and accept him for being the woman beating jerk he is?
originally posted by: SLAYER69
originally posted by: Mjab6910
So I'm just supposed to forgive and accept him for being the woman beating jerk he is?
Has anyone here told you that's what you should do?
I didn't. I shared how for me the outdated anger and resentments that no longer served a purpose, or one which never really had a purpose that they weren't going to hold me in their grips anymore.
What gets you angry in this case seems legit, no one here is telling you not to be angry or that you don't have a right to feel such.
But will you let that fester 20 or 30 years from now, after say they make it as a couple and there is no longer abusive behavior or he gets locked up over it?
Again, no one is saying you can't get angry, but will you let it dominate your whole life day after day, week after week, year in and year out after he is eithr locked up or they make it?
I look for a high that is clearly far beyond what you are satisfied with....therefore I do not take delight in trying to love every little thing around and see the good in all, all of the time.
This place is deliberate , controlled, and arranged, all extremely limited forms of love, and light.
originally posted by: Mjab6910
a reply to: SLAYER69
BTW Slayer, a star and flag for your post. I understand exactly what you're saying, and I so wish I could attain that state of being, but at this time, I just can't let go of the anger I have for this jerk who has beat my daughter up on 3 KNOWN occasions. The last time was in July. He beat her face so badly she had black eyes and he chocked her until she began to lose consciousness.
I live in Charleston SC, here the police arrest both parties in a domestic violence situation, so since she doesn't wanna go to jail, she won't press charges. Also I worry because currently, South Carolina is #1 for a woman being killed at the hands of her abusive male significant other. So that weighs on my mind heavily as well.