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originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: NightSkyeB4Dawn
a reply to: Annee
Threaten to shut their phone off
I never made threats.
That's kinda a joke.
Not sure how many teenagers you've raised.
But, teenagers and their phones . . . .
originally posted by: NightSkyeB4Dawn
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: NightSkyeB4Dawn
a reply to: Annee
Threaten to shut their phone off
I never made threats.
That's kinda a joke.
Not sure how many teenagers you've raised.
But, teenagers and their phones . . . .
I got it.
I guess my dry wit requires an acquired taste.
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: NightSkyeB4Dawn
a reply to: Annee
Threaten to shut their phone off
I never made threats.
That's kinda a joke.
Not sure how many teenagers you've raised.
But, teenagers and their phones . . . .
originally posted by: InTheLight
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: NightSkyeB4Dawn
a reply to: Annee
Threaten to shut their phone off
I never made threats.
That's kinda a joke.
Not sure how many teenagers you've raised.
But, teenagers and their phones . . . .
Raising teenagers is the toughest parenting responsibility and at times I did threaten, but not physical violence, with removing their bedroom door and taking away their privacy. It worked every time. Desperate times call for desperate measures.
District Attorney Hillary Moore said his office will have to review all the evidence in the case before determining whether or not his office will pursue formal charges. "The degree of physical discipline will be reviewed," said Moore. "The law does not allow excessive pain or cruelty but does allow physical parental discipline. He did say he doesn't want to discourage parents from disciplining their children. "In my life if I had done that, those allegations, I guarantee you that by the time I came home, I'd be met by a four-foot-eleven mother with a pot a pan and a stick and later on by a six-foot tall dad who instilled discipline and inflicted discipline on me and I believe that surely helped me in growing up," he said. Moore said his office will review everything and meet with DCFS "to get a better picture of the entire family dynamics" before deciding whether or not they want to prosecute Spears. "What the law says, it's really simple, although it makes it difficult," said Moore. "It's unjustifiable pain or protracted pain that's inflicted on a child. That's what the facts are and that's what if have to prove." He added that "parents have the right and obligation to discipline and teach their children." "We often time see children who have no parental authority or discipline which eventually results in delinquency and criminal acts," Moore said. "We need more parents who discipline their children. Surely you would expect a parent to discipline a child who is burglarizing other people’s homes as this could be a deadly encounter for the child."
originally posted by: InTheLight
Follow through is a must!
originally posted by: InTheLight
a reply to: Annee
If he managed to get the phone off her (a violation of taking her personal property and violation of physical space) why not just wait out the tantrum and then make like a broken record about the importance of family time . . .
If that is the reality of disciplinary action at work, those people must need those jobs very badly to accept that abuse.
This is as much a cultural problem as much as it is a parenting problem. Where these children boys in particular have no genuine male role-models to look up to. Because the majority of whom are sitting in jail for stupid possession charges or some crap.
originally posted by: JAY1980
I was all for this kind of parenting until I did my research...
Punishing a child with physical force only teaches the child to manage strong emotions using the same mechanism. Will get flamed for this I'm sure. But it's true. The non use of force method of parenting has always produced better children than the use of force method. It's basically corporal punishment on a minor. Sure kids need boundary's and rules, but the threat of physical violence has shown to have little immediate effect but long term psychological effects. I have seen kids get hit by their parent and go right back to being a spoiled brat in 2 seconds. It doesn't work! At home corporal punishment is now illegal in 42 countries.Source
Funny how some of the most PC/SJW ATS members are advocates for use of force parenting. Of course that kind of makes sense because most SJW's are generally left leaning, and the left is generally for the application of force methods to get what they want.
I'm sure the mother is just doing her best.
But the fact these children got to this level of delinquency in the first place is the problem. I'd bet this isn't the first time she used force on her children with minimal results either. This is as much a cultural problem as much as it is a parenting problem. Where these children boys in particular have no genuine male role-models to look up to. Because the majority of whom are sitting in jail for stupid possession charges or some crap. Simply beating these kids into submission will never work. Just like free range parenting will never work. Until we address these fundamental issues with parenting, punishment, and morals we will continue to see our kids growing up into dysfunctional adults.
Disclaimer:
I was spanked as a child and don't have any children of my own.
I am speaking purely from a research standpoint.
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: InTheLight
a reply to: Annee
If he managed to get the phone off her (a violation of taking her personal property and violation of physical space) why not just wait out the tantrum and then make like a broken record about the importance of family time . . .
Do not agree at all. My house, my rules.
I pay for the phone, its my phone, not hers.
I completely support the father in forcing her to get her # together and join the family. He only gets her 3 weekends a month.
She gets out in the real world and thinks her drama is more important then being part of society?
Not in my world.
while their parents just sit there and say nothing or even think it's "cute."