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"If it is not cute at 22, then it is not cute at 2
When I was a child, children were the responsibility of the whole community. Not so any more.
It is a parent’s job to teach teens that becoming an adult means finding and asserting your own authority. This is a great opportunity to model for your child what it means to be an adult by showing confidence in your rules and also by gaining their trust. At the end of the day, parents must parent. When teens learn to find their own authority, they learn that people cannot pressure them. What you are modeling for your children is that strong central core so they’re not vulnerable to peer group socialization. Once they have that strong core and sense of self, things like bullying and peer pressure are no longer as big of an issue, and they are more confident in using a cell phone of their own and proud of the responsibility.
This is a great opportunity to model for your child what it means to be an adult by showing confidence in your rules and also by gaining their trust. At the end of the day, parents must parent.
originally posted by: darepairman
Havent read the whole thread but I will say that I sincerely thank my parents for every lickin I got from them, at 53 years old I have never been in jail outside of a couple of minor dust ups I had in my younger days. My parents did right by me.
originally posted by: NightSkyeB4Dawn
originally posted by: darepairman
Havent read the whole thread but I will say that I sincerely thank my parents for every lickin I got from them, at 53 years old I have never been in jail outside of a couple of minor dust ups I had in my younger days. My parents did right by me.
It is part of the grooming process to make disciplining parents the ogre. Notice that very little is being said about what the children did wrong. The focus is all on the mother that tried to correct the problem. She tried to nip it in the bud, but she is the one being thrown under the bus.
You know what message this is sending to every kid out there? This is not a mission to protect these children from a poor parent. If the police had handled the problem, the headlines would have been much different, but the mother would have still been thrown under the bus.
I hope people can see the direction we are being pushed.
It is the type of discipline that is question, that being, using physical assault to do the job of disciplining instead of educating oneself with the tools that work. Too many parents let technology do the babysitting for them, thus freeing them of the hard work of parenting, then lash out at the child when they try to assert control, when rules and co-operation (compromise from both sides) were probably never really established.
younger children are very predictable and manageable when you know how
As a nation, we are raising a generation of kids that do not have the discipline, the will power, or the drive to handle adversity. Local, state and federal government make it impossible to discipline them at older ages, and even younger ones are getting in on the racketeering.
As a child, you have no rights but those your parents think you should be allowed. You do not deserve a phone, a pc, a tablet, unlimited time with your friends, or an allowance. It's not keeping you down, it's called teaching you the world doesn't owe you anything.
My oldest is one of the millennials, and no matter how I tried to raise her, the indoctrination from school turned her into a trumped up mini princess. Discipline was a hard thing, because children would run to the guidance counselor and the fear of losing your kid reigns in what you can and can't do. Up until high school she minded and obeyed, very little punishment needed. Then, it all began with, you can't spank me, I have rights. You can't take my phone, its my right, I'll call the cops and say you beat me.
Spanking a teenager is an awful idea anyway. If she's threatening to call the cops and tell them you beat her just because you tried to restrict her phone access then either the United State's school system is even more awful than I thought, your daughter has fallen in with some baaad friends, or you have f*cked up royally in some way.
You have to re balance your head in adult hood too.
And why I can understand why some people coddle their kids too much. They're going the opposite way because they missed it. They're trying to 'right their wrongs' so to say.