a reply to: NarcolepticBuddha
Hold your horses there N.B. !
Let me point something out to you. The way people perceive you and receive you, is a matter of two halves. You send a signal, and they receive it.
This is the essential principle behind all communication, wether it be verbal or non verbal, electronic, or issued from the person directly.
The problem is, that communicating effectively relies on both parties to have fully functioning transmitting and receiving capabilities. One of the
things which muddies up a communication pretty well, is the person to whom you are speaking, making assumptions about you before you even open your
mouth. Most people refuse to engage with others in a full, frank, and realistic manner, and this creates a superficial connection, which they may be
fine with, but you may not.
You may wish to be able to connect with other humans honestly, and in totality, the better to learn from them and share your mind scape, and that is
to be applauded. However, you must also understand that, increasingly in this day and age, people are less prepared to converse in a deep and
thoughtful manner, or indeed form relationships of any quality, than they used to be. It is one of the reasons that while I have some firm pals, I
have few of them, and it is also why I come here to sharpen my wits against the whetstone of the membership.
What you have to learn to do, is to do your own thing, be who you ARE rather than wearing a mask, and deal with the consequences without fear or
sorrow. You have to be yourself not because it is the way to connect with others, but because by wearing a mask all the time, you will do yourself
damage long term, and gaggles of friends or not, that is a bad idea! Being yourself will allow you to make few friends, but those you make when you
are being honest, will be the sort of friends you ride out the zombie apocalypse with, the sort you surf a nuke blast with, the kind of folk you stand
shoulder to shoulder with for the rest of your life.
The sort of friends you make when just playing a part... Those are not friends, just acquaintances with delusions of importance, and you will find
their inability to realise your complexity as a person, will make them shallow, hollow people to be around, and they will nourish you not one bit. Do
not become one with that flock dear chap! You are better than that! Stand up, be your self, and extend your middle fingers both toward the sky in the
direction of any who refuse to appreciate it, and ENJOY doing it!