posted on May, 2 2016 @ 05:35 PM
I told my friends and family that I was pregnant one week ago. My partner and I are also very involved, socially, in our small community. We're
legion members, and it's generally a town where everyone knows everyone. Word gets around and pretty much everyone in town who cares to know, knows
that we're expecting.
In ONE WEEK I have recieved more unsolicited advice, especially about breastfeeding, than I have ever cared to hear in my life.
Most women, and some men, have asked if I'll breast or formula feed. I plan on breastfeeding. Here are some of the things I've been advised about
breastfeeding with no exaggeration:
Breastfeeding is "gross". Babies can get better "stuff" out of formula "these days", and it's so convenient.
Your boyfriend will be so jealous. It's easier to formula feed so he can feed the baby too.
Don't pump your breast milk, it sucks all of the nutrition out as well.
People say don't drink when you're breastfeeding, but honestly, your body knows to filter it out so it won't hurt the baby.
But today I heard the most inane breastfeeding advice yet:
Woman: Will you breastfeed?
Me: I'm really hoping too.
Woman: Well, just so you know, like, 10% of first time mothers can breast feed for more than a couple of weeks.
Me: That doesn't even make sense.
If even one woman believes this to be true, I'm sad for her. How does she think 99% of the first born children before formula were fed, and didn't
starve to death? Does she think every woman had access to a wet nurse? This made me shake my head.
Does she think first born children born prior to formula were just "milk babies" to be discarded, whose sole purpose was to ready a mother to nurse
her second born?
I don't think I can listen to much more without turning into an eye roller or a heavy sigh enthusiast.
I feel for every woman who has had to listen to things like this, breast feeding or formula feeding; and I feel more so for every person who spreads
false and unsolicited pregnancy advice.