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FlyersFan
reply to post by JohnPhoenix
Your house .... your rules. He broke them which is disrespectful to you. He's out.
Side note - your wife should have told the truth about what you guys did in getting rid of the drugs. If you lie to him, he'll continue to think he can lie to you.
whyamIhere
reply to post by JohnPhoenix
Well if you are trying to end their relationship for good.
You are well on your way...
Add: what you did is theft.
JohnPhoenix
whyamIhere
reply to post by JohnPhoenix
Well if you are trying to end their relationship for good.
You are well on your way...
Add: what you did is theft.
I'm not following your logic here.. care to expound?
kaylaluv
reply to post by whyamIhere
Oh my God. This is a first. I actually agree with you. Will wonders never cease!
JohnPhoenix
reply to post by JohnPhoenix
I agree the wife handled it badly when he approached her directly. She made the choice to lie to the kid, not I. But you know.. can't let kids play one parent against the other.. She made her choice to lie to him and if i undermine that now, it will be worse for his and her relationship. Remember folks,, she is just starting to get to know her kid after he had been away from her in another state the past ten years. ( he was legally kidnapped at the age of 9 but like I said it's a long story.)
See. I'm kinda stuck between a rock and a hard place as far as choices go. For the wife's sake, i wont do anything I feel could harm their fragile relationship.
Grimpachi
reply to post by whyamIhere
You know that is a two way street.
If the kid cared about the relationship he wouldn't have disrespected the rules in the home of the people he is bumming off of.
whyamIhere
JohnPhoenix
whyamIhere
reply to post by JohnPhoenix
Well if you are trying to end their relationship for good.
You are well on your way...
Add: what you did is theft.
I'm not following your logic here.. care to expound?
Yes, you stole the young man's property. Then lied about it.
For something very minor.
Not a very nice way to enhance a relationship.
whyamIhere
Grimpachi
reply to post by whyamIhere
You know that is a two way street.
If the kid cared about the relationship he wouldn't have disrespected the rules in the home of the people he is bumming off of.
You were twenty once. You make lots of mistakes at that age.
It's just not the way I would of handled it.
Do you know how hard it is to start your own household in this economy.
Don't call him a bum. Twenty is too young to start labeling the young man.
No disrespect to the OP. I know they are trying.
Twenty is the new twelve.
This kid needs a helping hand. Some guidance, not just discarded.
The OP is a pretty bright guy. He will figure it out.
JohnPhoenix
whyamIhere
JohnPhoenix
whyamIhere
reply to post by JohnPhoenix
Well if you are trying to end their relationship for good.
You are well on your way...
Add: what you did is theft.
I'm not following your logic here.. care to expound?
Yes, you stole the young man's property. Then lied about it.
For something very minor.
Not a very nice way to enhance a relationship.
I didn't steal it. No one stole it, the wife found it and brought it to me. It was HER idea to take and flush them- not mine. Look, the moment he broke that rule his bag of pot was no longer his own - it was forfeit, as a cop would do, we confiscated the evidence. We do have Every right to take his illegal drugs and do with them as we please if they are in My house against my rules and wishes.
No, it's NOT minor. This is Not Colorado. He broke the rules and he knows it. He's taking a chance on going back to jail. He's lied to us because he promised to abide by my rules. That ounce of weed is enough to get him a felony in this state. I cannot have his breaking the law going on in my house.
Grimpachi
reply to post by whyamIhere
I am not willing to bend to their will or let them walk all over me.
His choice follow the rules or else.
Or else what?