This is an interesting conversation. As a woman, I sat and thought about which guys were put in the "friend zone" by me, and which were not. I'm
in my 50s, but I went back in my mind to when I was in my 20s.
If you're looking at younger women as potential partners, then you have to generate a certain "vibe". We women respond to the masculine vibe on a
subconscious level, because that's the age when our bodies are saying BREED. I remember not liking overt pigs, but rather, a man who is confident in
his sexuality, found me attractive as a female, and was eager to get at it. Hope I'm not being too blunt here.....
It wasn't so much about looks, as it was about making me feel desirable and sexy. Men who are not confident will not give out that vibe, and we find
ourselves looking elsewhere for that validation. Women are raised in this culture to find that their worth is tied up with how much men want them.
It sucks, but that's the way it is, and you only have to look at any type of media to see this fact.
The ones I put in the friend zone were the ones who didn't make me feel desirable. They were nice, we had intellectual conversations, they became my
emotional tampon that I would use to cry about the other men who weren't in the FZ. I would find out later that they were crushing on me, but failed
to show it. Human relationships carry risk. We women get burned too. Don't be afraid to keep trying. You will learn what works and what doesn't.
Obviously, whatever you're doing is getting you the same results, repeatedly. Therefore, you gotta get out of your comfort zone and try something
Naturally, chemistry has a lot to do with it as well. Not every woman that you desire and show it will pan out. But your success rate will
definitely go up. Make a woman feel gorgeous, special, and hot, but don't be a drooling pig and your odds should definitely increase. Sexual
innuendoes and jokes, staring in the wrong places, and being an octopus is a no-no. Keeping eye contact, letting her know she's beautiful, opening
doors for her, etc., is a definite yes.
PS....men.....learn to kiss. A huge open mouthed slobber fest in which half the woman's face is covered in spit is GROSS. Keep it slow, and
please.....keep the drooling to a minimum. A man who is a good kisser will make a woman melt, trust me on this. At any time, if a woman says STOP,
you stop immediately. Control is hot.