posted on Feb, 7 2014 @ 04:53 PM
1) A-B-C: always be closing.
It is partly a numbers game. I've posted before about a college friend who decided to lose his virginity in a weekend. He propositioned over
SEVENTY women. Like, number 76 took him home for the rest of the weekend.....
2) Watch Craig Ferguson
CF is the master at flirting for the goal. And he misses a lot. But he excels at dialing up his game just to the point where the woman is
beginning to be overwhelmed by it, and then he quickly backs off. His trademark phrase: "Was that a bit TOO creepy, what I did just then?" If she
doesn't say "Hell Yes, Dammit!" Then he waits fifteen seconds and then touches her elbow or leg. If Flirting is poker, then bet all your money on
3) Put THEM in the friend zone first!
If a female rejects you, for God's sake DO NOT hang around like a horny hound-dog. IF you do that, she's keeping you in the friend-zone as a
back-up for a rainy day. One that never comes. So let her know by your body language that you are NOT hitting on her. Make a point to hit on
everyone else around her. Roomates, maids, teachers, and even pets. But treat her like your Aunt Agnes.
4) Use friends as beards.
Ask one of your "friend-zoners" to hang on you in a bookstore or coffee house, so you can flirt with all the women who think you have a girlfriend.
I actually had a female friend who did this for me, while her boyfriend was out of the country. It was insane how well that worked. She would touch
my arm when she talked, she'd lean on me, etc. Honest to God, when she got up to go to the bathroom, another women handed me a napkin with a phone
number on it. A salesgirl once wrote her number on my receipt, just in case I needed to make a return. And yes, sometimes the beard goes crazy from
seeing other women hitting on you, and she hits on her yourself. That's how I lost my virginity. But that's another story, for another thread.
5) Don't be desperate.
No one likes it. Not even a hooker. It's pathetic. Always hold something back. Always maintain at least some air of mystery. The familiar is
boring. And there is no sin worse than being boring.
6) Resolve to ask 2 girls a week on a date.
And I mean a real date. Not coming over to watch you play a video game. And not sitting silently next to each other in a dark and roaring-loud movie
theater. A date is brunch, or a museum tour, or feeding ducks in the park. A chess game, or a bicycling date through the park. or a free concert as
your nephew performs in the school play (seriously). And the most expensive of those was... brunch. See, a real date is when you spend time with a
woman, talking about the things you both like and believe and are afraid of. And you touch her elbow and hopefully stroke her hair back into place at
7) If she rebuffs you, stay nonchalant.
Don't act like the date is over. DO NOT talk about it. Don't beg. leave it alone. Be a gentleman. But decide at the end of the date whether to
make one last-ditch play for it. I have had two "saves." in that situation. One led to immediate sex. The other became my girlfriend of over a
8) Only ask a woman on a specific date.
Do not say, "Gee, would you like to, maybe go out with me sometime?" I have said this, and have the woman say back that she would not ever want to
go out with me. Not sometime, not ever. Be as specific as possible. If she is a real lady, she won't say "no," she'll regretfully tell you she
has plans. Don't ask what they are. Just wait a couple of weeks, and invite her to a different kind of date: the symphony, the opening of an art
gallery. Unless she acts excited, or give you details of why she can't (basically, unless she shows genuine regret, and future interest) move on.
You are one girl closer to the right one.
I've been married for two decades now, to the best kisser I ever met.