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Millions
reply to post by wutdouthink
I see your post has had a good response, and probably everything has been covered. I just had a couple of points though :
1) Its tough for anyone to make real, long-term friends online. I wouldn't read much into this.
2) As a guy, I would say its pretty common for other guys to ignore a girl after a date..... and after they get, uhm, you know... 'what they want.' Its #ty, shallow behaviour, but I see it all the time. So again, I wouldn't read too much into this.
3) If someone is feeling shy, paranoid or lacking in confidence, it has a big impact on their body language and manner. This can often come across as being cold or unapproachable. At least this issue, once identified, should be relatively easy to address.
4) You're obviously a smart girl. So you'll probably have more in common with your fellow students than with the local morons hanging around in the park with their bottles of cheap booze, or working in a dead-end job. Find people that share your interests and sense of humour.
5) Forget all the conspiracy theories. Enjoy this site, but in your case, I think you've just had a bad time of it, so are drawing illogical conclusions. (ie- see my points 1 and 2 above).
6) A bad experience like yours can act like a negative feedback, self fulfilling prophecy (small social circle = low confidence + unhappiness = seeming as if you are unapproachable = less friends = staying at home more = smaller social circle.... and so on). So force yourself to get out there. Join clubs and student groups where you will meet people with shared interests. Go out to student events and meetings. Spend good family time. Do things that will make you feel good about yourself.
I hope you are okay - especially at this time of year!
reply to post by wutdouthink
michael1888 I came across this on another thread, "Here is the point - the things you inherently seek are products of love, not hate. By embracing the negativity, you are sabotaging yourself and your possibilities for happiness, but safeguarding your psyche with excuses to continue down dark paths. " Very true, but it is hard to change.
wutdouthink
I have heard this question come up multiple times. Actually I have tried to befriend many many many different types of people from all around the world (threw different websites) (China, Korea, Australia, Brazil, Canada and everywhere in between). All of them behave the same way.
And in real life I have tried to hang with different kinds of people in different groups they all end the same way.
And I don't think I come off as needy, in fact recently when I don't get a reply, I never ever send another text to them again because I am pissed. For example I sent a facebook message to a guy 4 days ago. Have I gotten a reply? No. But I know he is online because he has posted stuff on his wall and commented on the people who commented. And I have not sent him a message since. How do you guys expect me to feel?
reply to post by wutdouthink
Also, I have one more guy in my repertoire. He is the last one that is still responsive to my messages/texts. How long do you give it before he becomes unresponsive? I bet 30 days max. See what I mean, it is simply depressing knowing my fate before it happens.
wutdouthink
I would like to thank everyone for being friendly and helpful I bet if I added them on facebook, the same pattern would happen within 60 days
The reason I say great suggestion to those reading suggestions, is because not only did I learn a lot about myself and other people , but I learned a lot about human nature in general, as some other posters pointed out in this thread, there are many different reasons that many different people have difficulty in the social arena, the social arena, always came easy to me, but learning specifics of human nature like that can improve MANY aspects of a person's life. Social , business, family. Anything that can improve any aspect of a person's life is a good thing.
JBA2848
reply to post by wutdouthink
Seems you and michael1888 should hit it off together. Seems your both from California and have more in common then just sign up at ATS together but also the Plenty of Fish dating site.
That introduction thread kind of shows you are one in the same if not partners in some thing.
www.abovetopsecret.com...
Dishonesty is a good way to have no friends.
I thought ATS added a way to track IPs to get rid of the Sockpupets?
I guess even ATS gets hit with the propaganda.
I guess this is to suggest to people to look out for those people out there who might be depressed over the Holiday Seasons. They could have just made a thread about that then scammed the star and flag to put it on the front page? But there is nothing like a good story though. Carry on. Nothing to see here sheeple.edit on 30-12-2013 by JBA2848 because: (no reason given)
JBA2848
reply to post by wutdouthink
Your screen name pops up there with the other guy. The same one you chatted with to get your twenty post to start a thread. And you two even seemed to have a mix up with posting comments to the wrong person. Something that is common with people who use sockpupets to create multiple accounts. Not sure if you know what a sockpupet is but being on ATS you will find out I am sure over time.
Tell you the truth Mc Kinsey and Company is what this sounds like to me. NSA front that puts CEOs in positions of power. This case would fall under Chelsea Clinton and her many Boards and CEO positions. Her thing is dating sites and so on. She runs the parent company of this and sits on the board.
JBA2848
reply to post by wutdouthink
Mix up posting in the other thread.
www.abovetopsecret.com...
Dating website wihich seems to tie you two together.
www.pof.com...
Pictures from the two profiles there.
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