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Isaac Newton was perhaps the greatest genius to ever live.
galadofwarthethird
But yes your idea of doing science in pairs just may be a pretty brilliant one, however it does have its flaws. Such as the fact that even the most loving couple in the world would not want to spend all day and night together all the time. It is not feasible, not without going a bit crazy and all kinds of things.
You may have to consider that the way it is today is because it just may be the most optimal. A sad fact I know, but the key to a good relationship is not spending to much time together. The other being to be as ignorant as possible about your partners little quirks which you just cant stand among other things. And well lets just say ignorance and not looking to deep at things is the glue which hold together our relationships. And the other...no comment.
Married Army scientists bolster biological-threat detection
"What I really like about working with Mark is the reason that he and I became such good friends before we got married," Jody said. "He is just a great sounding board. He is always the person I would go to when I had issues in the laboratory.
Only for relationships based on a lie.
I will hazard a guess and say that you probably have never been married yourself. People who have been married — meaning, shared their lives and beds with another person for many years — will know exactly why I say this. I'm afraid your thread is based on a very mistaken conception of the dynamics of married life.
Only for relationships based on a lie.
Which modern society and the expectations placed on couples pretty much are.
Time doesn't exist for two people in love of the truth together.
Astyanax
reply to post by mikegrouchy
Only for relationships based on a lie.
Have you ever sustained a relationship for more than, say, a year or two, Mr. Grouchy? Not a polite question, I know, but given your words quoted above, it really has to be asked, lest inexperienced folk believe there is any truth in them.
All relationships that survive starry-eyed youth are based, not on a lie, but on careful management of the truth. Nobody is perfect and no two souls fit together exactly. Knowing when to keep quiet, as well as when to keep your eyes, ears and even your nose shut, are essential skills for any long-term partnership, particularly a sexual one.
I will hazard a guess and say that you probably have never been married yourself. People who have been married — meaning, shared their lives and beds with another person for many years — will know exactly why I say this. I'm afraid your thread is based on a very mistaken conception of the dynamics of married life.
randyvs
reply to post by Astyanax
I will hazard a guess and say that you probably have never been married yourself. People who have been married — meaning, shared their lives and beds with another person for many years — will know exactly why I say this. I'm afraid your thread is based on a very mistaken conception of the dynamics of married life.
I do agree in the twelfth year of my third marriage, as I am reminded
of Robert Mitchums response to this question asked of him shortly
before he died. A late night talk show host asked, " How is it Robert,
you seem to be one of the only movie giants, to ever have a marriage
out last his career in Hollywood?" I remember how quick his response
was when he said straight away, " DEVIOUSNESS ".
galadofwarthethird
reply to post by mikegrouchy
Only for relationships based on a lie.
Which modern society and the expectations placed on couples pretty much are.
Time doesn't exist for two people in love of the truth together.
Say what? OK! Is that assuming that both you and her are perfect creatures, and godly beings to boot, as time will somehow magically cease to exist in both of your presences. Not to mention the hundreds or thousands of other nuances which seem to go into any relationship.
galadofwarthethird
reply to post by mikegrouchy
Only for relationships based on a lie.
Which modern society and the expectations placed on couples pretty much are.
Time doesn't exist for two people in love of the truth together.
I even have model for you to base it on. Oh ya! You probably guessed it...GlaDOS she may have been a bit crazy in that portal game, trying to kill you and stuff and constantly trying to fill you full of neurotoxins for your own good. But when it comes to doing science there are none better, definitely no stinky flesh and blood female can compare, or ever hope to achieve even 19% of the science that GlaDOS is.
And no doubt those "kill" bugs can be worked out.
And I'll lie to get it."
A common thing to show women's suppression is to have a little girl who wants to play with the boys but is pushed away or made the princess to be rescued by the boys.
This doesn't make sense to me in light of mine and my friends' experiences. I remember a few times in first grade I played with the boys. One time we got in trouble because we were playing archeologist just off the pavement we were allowed to play on, another time I played Batman with them. I didn't know who Batman was or who any of the other heroes or villains were so the boys gave me a hero and let me run around chasing the Joker and his minions with them. They didn't care that I was a girl, they were just happy to have someone to run around with.
So I guess I don't understand why young boys are shown to be sexist when my own overwhelming experience has shown that they just want a playmate, they don't care about the playmate's gender. In fact, if anything, I've noticed that many of my female classmates were the sexist ones. They wouldn't let boys play with them because "boys ruin everything" and "boys can't play Barbies/house/paint/make art". I've also noticed that boys behave in kind if a young girl treated them that way and only toward that girl. My sister and I always got to play with the boys because we always let the boys play with us, the boys would help us because we helped the boys.
I agree it's not the young girls who are the perpetrators, it's often older men or jaded older women. My parents and the parents they hang out with (whom I love talking with, they're seriously an interesting group of adults, two ceramic engineers (who are married to each other), two rocket scientists (who are married to each other), two people who work making dentist supplies (both male), and a hand full of stay at home moms), don't really discuss gender roles. In fact I never really thought about gender roles or how very few of my friends or their parents actually fit any sort of exact gender role (other than being called mom and dad) until I got a tumblr and saw people complaining about it.
galadofwarthethird
As you know doubt know this game of love has been played out many times. What I am saying is your not the only one to come up with this brilliant idea. As Einstein once said, doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results would qualify as insanity. If it has all the qualifications and parameters and definitions of insanity under any other parameter, well what would it be?...It could just be a bad idea. It could just be that like many other people you fell in love with the idea of falling in love.
One day, about (exactly) a year ago, we got the bright idea to go to the courthouse and get married. I put on a tux and she put on her best spring dress. We left our Nerd House(tm) at 11:35 am in a loaner Audi A4 (because Janel dropped her car off for an oil change). This is what engineers do... they combine errands, as in "let's get an oil change and married."
ThisNerdHouse / Has it been a year already?
While every married couple’s dynamic might be considered unique, Ms. Diller and Mr. Scofidio are representative of a broad trend of husband-and-wife collaboration that is changing the traditional definition of architecture partnerships.
The list of couples is growing, as architects break off from big firms to go into business with their spouses. Dan Wood and Amale Andraos. J. Meejin Yoon and Eric Höweler. Mimi Hoang and Eric Bunge. Diana Agrest and Mario Gandelsonas. Laura Briggs and Jonathan Knowles
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