New Neighbor Nightmare

Originally posted by thisguyrighthere
Nothing ruins life like other people.

Move to as isolated a place as you can manage to. Preferably an area that has no prospects for development.

Here's hoping for a pandemic that wipes them all out.

You and this thread have really provoked me to admit this out loud.

EVEN THOUGH I am a fully awake ex sheeple who is highly empathic and sympathetic, I agree with the Georgia Guidestones. There must be a way though, to get everyone under 200million without deliberate outright murder. (Radiation, GMOd food, chems, cancer, pandemics, etc) A nice gentle attrition somehow. Would do just fine.
And just while I'm posting this, some as***le below me, decided to play loud music.
And it was always quiet before. Unf**king real.

Originally posted by Quyll
reply to post by amraks

 

I helped her enough by calling the cops and having that guy arrested. The last thing I wanted was to befriend someone who's boyfriend beat them up and could have easily done the same to me. I lived right below them. Common sense said to stay out of it and help from the fringes undetected.

Hopefully the girl will be smart enough now to not get mixed up with abusive guys.

hope so I guess some people you can not help they are drawn to it. its a spinning cycle of their life.

Originally posted by Quyll
I used to live in an apartment complex on the first floor for three years. Never, ever live on the first floor if you want to keep your sanity. The first guy that moved in had a piano who played very poorly. He would play till 10:00PM and the apartment complex let him do it. On top of that, he taught singing lessons. These women could not sing worth a damn, so the combination of bad piano playing and high pitched female vocals was enough to drive you mad.

After him, hell decided to move in upstairs. This "couple" consisted of a 90LB female, her 200LB all muscle abusive boyfriend and their pitbull. As a former victim of physical, emotional, and psychological abuse, I know what it sounds like when a women gets abused by her spouse. I would wake up in the early hours of the morning, and hear this girl screaming for her boyfriend to let her go, because he's hurting her. I would hear banging on the ceiling along with crying and yelling. It was terrible. This would happen at least 3x a week. This girl would run outside to try to run away, and he would call her name from on top of the stairs angrily, and she would go back up like an obedient dog.

I called the cops numerous times and they came, but the girl would say how the dog gave her those bruises, and not her boyfriend. I heard her struggling for air as he choked her, I know it wasn't the dog.

It got so bad one time, I called the cops and told them what was going on above me. She asked me if I knew his license plate number, and I did due to the parking lot being right in front of our window. She pulled up his information, and of course, he had a criminal record. Battery, kidnapping, and drug abuse. So, they came and kicked down the door and arrested him. They were kicked out of the apartment complex and we finally moved out a week later. After that, I will never move into any apartment complex that does background checks on their tenants. I also will never move to anywhere but the top floor.

That reminded me of where I used to live where the landlord beat the hell out of his wife. I gave her a number to call where she could find safety for herself and two kids. She never listened. To this day, I wonder if she is even alive.

Sounds like you have surely had your fair share of lousy neighbors!

reply to post by Night Star


Man that really sucks...this is where peoples personal freedoms come into question because although they are doing thing on their property and they do have the right to do so it is interfering with your quality of life...as prices become more affordable on houses I notice that people that normally are living in the inner city are moving out to the suburbs...and in some ways that it great but in others it's a nightmare if the people could care less around the way in which they conduct themselves...start looking for a new place because a civil conversation is not going to happen...if you sell your place try and sell to some hells angels...

Originally posted by thisguyrighthere
Nothing ruins life like other people.

Move to as isolated a place as you can manage to. Preferably an area that has no prospects for development.

Here's hoping for a pandemic that wipes them all out.

Can't afford to move anywhere. I wouldn't want a pandemic to wipe them out, just want them to be respectful and quiet.

Originally posted by onehuman
Hey there Night Star,
I have my share of obnoxious Rhode Island neighbors as well, but mine dont wake up until around 11 pm. With that being said, if you need to run away for awhile and get a little peace, I have a very nice garden that sits on a full lot here in providence. It is pretty quiet in the daytime.lol You can come watch it grow with me if you'd like while you are waiting for the super hereos to show up!

We have chatted before, Feel free to message me if you'd like... yig~

That is very sweet of you. Thanks for the offer.

Originally posted by piequal3because14
reply to post by Night Star

 

New Neighbor Nightmare,

Oh I am so sorry for your distress.

But there might be a solution.

You can buy a pet.

Like this one....

Oh my God, that cracked me up! Shall we name him Fido? Thanks for the laugh!!!
neveryetmelted.com...

He can stay tied to a tree with a 30 feet long and a very thick chain all day and also he can have his daily walk in the park.

But I guess then you will be very alone in the entire neighborhood.

edit on 3-5-2013 by piequal3because14 because: add

reply to post by Night Star


I am so sorry to hear about this. It hits me between the eyes and caused stress just reading your OP. Please if you can, move. I know that is probably not an option or you would have already.

For me, the hit I got was existence as a whole trying to lead you from past to the present. To guide you to safety and reverence.

For now, do bamboo fences or anything you can to protect your space.

I am having heat flashes just trying to be here for you. Feels like when a hysterical crying is stuck and will not flow.

Bless you, bless the nature which is suffering with you right now.

I know you are a beautiful, benevolent being of such goodness and light.

Place salt around your property, do ritual cleansings daily. Send love and light to the 4 corners of your property, to the evil neighbors.

I sense animal abuse and neglect, this is so far beyond what I can imagine you have suffered.

Let me know if I can send you some fast growing plants as a shield for your outdoor oasis and Buddha field.

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I lived in a studio apartment one time and had the worst neighbors EVER!!!

One guy was a tweaker using meth and was always taking apart bikes, motorcycles, tv, radio and anything else he could get his hands on in his living room and his place was covered in greese plus the sink was full of dishes with flies and maggots. He used to charge the homeless people money to use OUR laudry room and his shower to get cleaned up. He would sit on the porch and attempt to play the guitar with a little amp and there were zero notes being played just scratching at the strings.

Another neighbor was like 450 pounds and she would have different dudes over all the time and you could here her moaning while they were having sex at all hours of the day/night and different men ALL the time. Plus the banging of the wall that you could here from the court yard.

Another studio apartment had two adult men druggies living in it with a curtain to divide the room. They were carpet cleaners but hardly ever worked and always had 5-10 people crammed into their place taking up all our parking spot.

I have a good 50 over the top stories from living on the beach in that community!!!

Originally posted by amraks

Originally posted by Night Star

Originally posted by oniraug
The same neighbors you don't like have similar complaints when their 'hood' gets taken over and rejuvinated by hipsters. Don't judge, talk to em once in a while and be nice. Maybe they will return the favor, never know.

I have had similar neighbors years ago in another area. One couple ripped us off, others were stifling and wanted your attention constantly. I was drained and never had time to myself at all. I have a few close friends and that works out perfectly for me. I know I can trust them, count on them and they can do the same with me.

Stifling??

Hot And Stuffy??

Ooops. Well they both make you miserable right?

That reminded me of where I used to live where the landlord beat the hell out of his wife. I gave her a number to call where she could find safety for herself and two kids. She never listened. To this day, I wonder if she is even alive.

Sadly, I have had my share of lousy neighbors. I've also had to deal with abuse all my life. My mom used to get beaten up a lot by my stepdad when my sister and I were very young. She got out of it, but the emotional scars are still there. Anyone in that situation is going to have emotional scars.

You can't help them, because they are "comfortable" with that situation. They think they can't get a better man. They think they're not good enough. As much as you try to help them, they will not listen. They have to do it themselves.

When you gave the number to that lady, she probably thought about it, but decided to stay because calling them would mean that everything would change. It was untested waters and she was scared of leaving the "comfort" of her life. It's such a sad situation. I wouldn't wish that situation on anyone. Even my worst enemy.

reply to post by Night Star

Oh my God, that cracked me up! Shall we name him Fido? Thanks for the laugh!!!

Then Fido shall be his name.

Oh and if he is hungry just let him free for a couple of hours.

LOL on the lighter side I do have a horrible neighbor, have even done a thread about her, but wanted to add that she keeps her cows right on the line of our property as an insult to me, but you know what? I do not eat cows, ever, I do love them and send love to as many as I can think of daily. I love them. that and the wind always blows away from her electric fence towards her home not mine.

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Your ideas are just silly. People find cures for pandemics and cancers.

It would be far more sensible to sterilise the masses throught the water system. Cheap, easy and no one has to get murdered.

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Sounds like your neighborhood is lower classy if people on welfare moved in next door. If you have money, move somewhere higher scale. Not necessarily a more expensive house, but a nicer area.....I live on a country club and my neighbors are great!

I have 3 neighbors.

1 is a old man, that is annoying, every now and then he will insist on thinking I have money to spend on garage sales or some other things.
He will annoyingly say "You gotta, You gotta mate." when I say no I don't I have expenses to pay for and bills that come in, I like to save not spend on little things I don't need.
He will insist on me coming over and drinking his home brew.
he thinks because he smokes 3 packets of 50 gram tobacco a fortnight, that I should be doing the same.
He revs his car past my bedroom window when reversing back into his carport at 8 in the morning when I am sleeping.
He insists when I am building things I should do it the easy way which is usually his cheap and nasty way.
He always knows what you are doing, what time you went to bed, what time you went to the toilet, had a shower, went out some where, its like I am living next door to a stalker.
He has even attempted to crack onto my girlfriend while drinking, when I was away.
He bought a car once very cheaply and could of made a good profit but didn't wait then sold it to a car yard.
One thing annoys me, he thinks his place is too small for a budgie(parakeet to those people who don't know of budgies is the proper name for this bird ), when the lounge room would be the 4 times the size of a standard aviary.
List goes on

Other neighbors are quite.

Originally posted by Night Star
A couple of years ago we got new neighbors. There is a couple with one child.You never see the husband without a can of beer in his hands. One day he was on crutches with a broken leg. It seems he got into a bar fight and was told never to return there again. Now this guy had re-vamped some remote controlled car thing and plays with it all the time. It's wicked loud and drives everyone crazy.

A month ago, we get more new neighbors, right on the side of us. The woman has 3 children from 3 different fathers, is on welfare, but has money for big parties etc. They have one of those big blow up things where kids go in and jump around in, a big screened in tentlike thingy to sit outside etc. She just bought a load of flowers for the yard. I don't mind anyone on welfare who needs it, but where is she getting money for all these things?

Her kids are screamers and whiners. I used to love to sit outside and do my jewelry work or read a book and relax, now it is impossible. They are out there day and night and now...

Another woman moved into the same house on the first floor. Another loudmouth partier. One day I tried sitting out, it was a gorgeous day and all I could hear was these ladies and their friends talk about their other friends in prison or halfway houses and swearing in front of the kids. Good Lord!

Some other neighbors believe they are drug dealers.

Why can't people be respectul? Why must they be loud and obnoxious? Last year we had neighbors ask the guy with the loud remote car thing to please be quiet as they had a child sleeping. He stopped for a while then wham right back to it.

And kids will be kids, but when they continue screaming at the top of their lungs.....come on!

This isn't helping my stress and anxiety one bit! We used to have quiet, respectful neighbors.

I used to be able to sit in the sunshine and listen to the song birds, now all I hear is swearing and yelling and screaming and whining and...

Anyone else have to put up with crappy neighbors???

I had this problem a few years ago when i was a young whipper snapper. Tried to be nice to the neighbours. They where bringing in all sorts of creeps from the scheme and partying to all hours of the night, any day of the week. Being nice to them of course they laugh in your face and get louder, I sorted it out with a baseball bat but i regret it now. It is not the way to go. If only people would respect each other, but of course there are some that don't listen to word's.

reply to post by Night Star


I sympathize with you. It's not east to find a place to live where the neighbors have similar interests to yours.

We are all supposed to embrace everyone these days but I think there are a lot of folks that I would not want as neighbors.

We live in the country and have some nice neighbors. The ones that aren't sociable are at least quiet.

If I were in your shoes, I'd start looking for a quieter place to live.

I can SO relate to your story!

I am VERY sensitive to sound, especially the lower tones...which happen to include bass, dirt bikes, remote controlled planes, loud exhaust, etc.

I too like to sit in my backyard and just RELAX. I need this time and space. It is why I got a big backyard that overlooks greenery, out in the country. Even though I am on a county road, I still have nearby neighbors. It is always the rental houses that cause the problems, so whenever there is a rotation I cross my fingers.

I am not someone who is afraid to say something when I feel it is justified, but I totally understand why you would choose not to. I say follow your gut on that one. Sometimes you can just tell when trying to talk to someone will just get the music turned up louder, or maybe some poison tossed in for your dog to eat.

I think, that with your story, the main concern here is what is happening within that house and the kids. If you really suspect drug activity than perhaps there IS something you can do. Especially if they are renters. First, you could find out who the owners of the property are (a quick on-line search of the auditors office using the address) and send them anonymous complaint about the renters. Second, if you have a view of the cars coming and going, start writing down license plates and traffic activity. After a week or so, turn it all over to the police, again asking to remain anonymous. If they are dealing drugs, there is a good chance they are already known to the police and that is just the type of information they love to get.

Lastly, if you have real concern for the kids, an anonymous typ to CPS. NO child should be brought up in that environment.

We have a drug dealer living up the street from us. It took over TWO years to get them out...but it finally happened. Last I had heard from neighbors that were more involved, was that not only were they dealing/making drugs (meth/heroine), but also porn. There was a 14 yr old boy and 12 yr old girl living in that house. The thought of what might be happening to them was the worst part of all of it. I have watched the boy unravel and is now sitting in juvi for domestic violence, assault with a deadly weapon. The kids are the real victims.

Anyway...hope it works out for you. If they are renting, they probably wont stay long, but there ARE a few things you can do from the sideline.

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We are on our way... just don't forget to put the beers in the freezer and stock up on the Alka Seltzer for Cody as well as making a couple of bacon sandwiches for Heff... Oh, and the carrots for Beezer of course!

I feel for you Night Star, it cannot be fun living in an environment like that and i consider myself more than lucky to live slap bang in the middle of the countryside away from the pollution and stress of towns and cities.

Have you not the possibility of having a friendly discussion with the owner of the building next door to explain the problems and see if you can both come to some kind of compromise?

Kindest respects

Rodinus