posted on Jan, 2 2013 @ 08:16 PM
Originally posted by tothetenthpower
reply to post by kimish
There's no man or woman in a same sex relationship. Gender roles are a society construct and really don't apply in those cases.
Either way the state has no business asking a third party to provide support for a child he didn't make. All he did was provide genetic material.
That does not make you a parent, nor should it make your responsible so long as the proper legal remedies are in place.
As for traditionally, you realize that courts are heavily invested in woman and routinely screw men out of their rights and their money right?
The whole system favors mothers, even when it's proven the mother is not fit to raise the child. A whole lot of sexism there.
edit on 1/2/2013 by tothetenthpower because: (no reason given)
In some cases that's not true. Everytime I ever tried to get help, when I was a single mother, I would get treated like crap , at least a lot of the
time. It was as if they were more sympathetic for the father.
I struggled for about six or seven years to get child support and when I finally got it, I only got a couple child support paychecks through the state
until it stopped. Don't know why. I called and think it was because the father either quit his job or got fired. If he quit to avoid child support, I
don't know. But I can tell you that that was the kind of guy he was.
I'll be honest though, if he would have at least called and visited or spent time with her often, I would not have cared as much about the child
support. I even tried to negotiate with him more than once. This all happened after we broke up. He just abandoned her and rarely spoke to her, not
even would bother to call. So basically he became a deadbeat dad.
But that's all in the past now and my husband is wonderful with her. He treats her like his own. So that makes me happy that she has a real father
figure in her life who enjoys to be around her in return.
As for the OP, I feel for the sperm donor in this case. He was helping out and it seemed to backfire. It's even especially more unsettling that the
woman in this case wasn't even asking for child support from him.
Boy, why didn't I get this much help when I really needed it?
Lol. But seriously, maybe I don't know much about this, but wouldn't the other
woman who left have to pay support? I was under the impression they were both in it together.