reply to post by watchitburn
I think both of you kind of need to get off your high horses and admit that you're not so cold and unfeeling that you can't take it to the next level.
If she doesn't want to, she at least needs to be woman enough to tell you. Sounds to me like you've done your part by putting yourself on the line
like that She needs to quit being coy about it by insinuating that she has issues that only a knight in shining amour can solve.
In fact, tell her that if she wants to remain friends, well, that's what friends do. They're honest with each other. So be honest with her. Tell her
that you've known her long enough to be able see the child in the woman who's tired of running. She's been running from being a real woman so long
that she wouldn't know how to act as one on a personal level, so she keeps running.
Sit outside under the moon, share some wine and check this:
Or whatever else you both appreciate. Something that's both romantic and real at the same time. A good segue-way between what you liken yourself to
be, and what you really are. We all have illusions about ourselves sometimes.
Tell her that if it makes her uncomfortable at first.....good. That's natural. You can't appreciate comfort if you're inexperienced. Not to say she's
a virgin or anything, but it's obvious she's never had a real man before.
15 years is a long time to know the same woman my friend. Consider yourself fortunate in that regard. Whether either of you realize it or not, you're
on the same page in many ways. You almost have to be to maintain a friendship that long. The trick is knowing or feeling that you can stay on that
page if you take it to the next level. If you can, I don't see a problem here, and what you did didn't screw things up. Far from it. It gave you both
yet something else
to talk about if anything.
What other people said here is true. Women like perseverance. It shows them that the man is in it for the long haul. Just don't "persevere" in a way
that crosses the line into being weird or "stalkish". After 15 years you should know where that line is.
Originally posted by VoidHawk
Next time your're with her start looking at other women, if it don't work then forget it.
I wouldn't say forget it, but that is good advice. You'll definitely know where she's at. If anything, ask her if she wants to be "friends with
benefits". It's a higher level of course, but it's a good natural way of easing into the heavier stuff, and it shouldn't be awkward to word it that
way. Especially if she's shy about that sort of thing, which she obviously is.
That's about all I can tell you man. You know her better then I do. If anything I said makes sense, just put your own little twist on it to make it
work. You may not make it to the level YOU want, but at least you'll take the friendship to another level, thereby maintaining it. Either way, you
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