I like this thread.
I thought about this subject many years ago myself. How does love start? Why do we love some people and not others? Are there different kinds of love?
And finally, what does it mean to love someone?
I like to answer questions such as these by using opposites. If we are talking about the ordinary relationship where two people meet and fall in love,
I think mutual sexual attraction
is a requirement for this.
So who is most likely to not be in a sexual relationship?
1) People who are not physically attractive
(disfiguration of face
). These people do have the best souls on the planet however in my experience. Life on that
level is the hardest difficulty level you can pick. I feel so much admiration and love for these people. You have to live one of these lives to fully
understand it. And some of you have and some of you will.
2) People in wheelchars (chance of being in a sexual relationship is much higher than in the above group since the face is more important than the
body. But the body must function sexually, and sometimes it doesnt.).
Without physical attraction, you become friends with the person instead.
Thats a different kind of love, and its possible for any human being to have. I have seen very deep friend relationships and they can be magical and
make the persons truly happy. Some people say these relationships are better than sexual ones.
So to answer the question... love is attraction to someones personal attributes. If the attributes are physically satisfactory, it becomes a sexual
relationship, and if they are not, it becomes a friend relationship (if the people like each other, naturally).
Both sexual love and friendship love are a form of addiction, because they make you feel a certain way that you really like. The other person makes
you like yourself better because he or she sees certain things they really like in you). Its an ego boost.
When relationships end, people sometimes turn pretty evil towards each other, because its a big blow to the ego to fail at a relationship, and it
needs to defend itself. So ego is definently involved in relationships. And that is part of this human experience here. We all have the ego as part of
the physical body but we should learn to control it so it doesnt control us.
Im rambling a bit... and I will stop now.
edit on 30-9-2012 by Bodhi911 because: (no reason given)