I authored a book on this topic/disorder. I have experience with these types of people, as this disorder also runs in my own family. I hope the
following information is helpful.
It's called 'Narcissism' or NPD, Narcissistic Personality Disorder and it's actually very serious -- not for the person who has the disorder, but for
those involved in any way with the person. Unfortunately, it's an untreatable, incurable emotional disorder. But, many people don't believe that until
after they've spent a fortune on therapy only to find out the person with NPD was playing them. They get their kicks out of playing head games.
They lack the ability to empathize -- to put themselves in the place of others. That inability never improves or changes. They get high off of being
the center of attention and when they aren't the center of attention they are down. They are shallow, very superficial. They also get high off of
drama, even if they claim to hate drama. They also specialize in destroying relationships, tearing apart families and fracturing emotional bonds --
and with absolutely no remorse. Sometimes, others don't even realize that these Princesses were actually the source or cause of a break-up or an
estrangement b/c they usually cover their tracks.
They lack the ability to accept responsibility for their actions.They will destroy you if you have a relationship with them. They are, essentially, an
out-of-control or an unruly adolescent in the body of an adult ... even in their 30's, 40's, 50's and beyond. They also have limited coping abilities.
A specific part of the brain never matured beyond late adolescence.
Some experts believe 'the emotional center' of the brain is underdeveloped and that this particular center or region of the brain did not properly
develop along with other brain regions that did develop (children are narcissistic) ... AND then other experts believe the circuitry of 'the
emotional center' of the brain is faulty or improperly wired ... AND others believe it's genetic plus an environmental component triggered the
Anyone who co-parents with an individual who has this mental disorder is doomed to a lifetime of sheer misery. They use innocent children as objects
or pawns to make others 'dance to their tune'. They have children with those who are not narcissistic as a means of keeping them tied and connected to
them for life. NPD goes way beyond entitlement issues and self-absorption ... way beyond. These people are real bad news. Never confront them or tell
them you suspect they have this disorder.
If a teenager with narcissistic tendencies does not outgrow narcissism by their early 20's (mid 20's at the very latest) when the brain's
emotional/social development center achieves maturity, then chances are that it's not a phase. It means they have the actual disorder. Reality TV
exploits them and gets paid to do so. But, then, they live in fantasy, not reality, as they're so full of themselves they're actually unaware they are
It gets progressively worse with age and there is no known cure. My advice -- stay away from these people. They will slowly take you down in every way
-- emotionally, financially and ultimately physically, meaning they slowly destroy your health. Sadly, many people take this disorder way too lightly.
edit on 14-8-2012 by Jana12 because: spelling error