posted on Aug, 14 2012 @ 10:25 PM
BASSPLYR - I agree with everything you've said. As far as your friend being married to a narcissist, gotta be a living hell. If he bought her a
Mansion she'd complain she doesn't have a bigger one. No matter what he does for her, it will never, ever be good enough. Narcissists get high off
the sadness, pain, agony, frustration, etc. of others and they are highly addicted to this high. When they see others trying harder to please them,
they keep raising the bar. It's also common for people in a relationship with these horrid people to become a co-dependent, which sadly, is like a
long, drawn-out passive suicide. He'd probably be better off without her, especially since there's no cure and they do not change or improve with
age. Threats do not work. It won't get better.
BTW, as you mentioned, narcissism and psychosis are two different things. Psychosis is a break with reality. A psychotic person has totally snapped
and has had a complete break with reality -- very different from narcissism. Although narcissists live in a fantasy world, they have not actually had
a break with reality.
intrptr - A narcissistic mother. Sorry. I'll bet no matter how hard you tried and no matter how well you did, and in spite of your accomplishments
and achievements she made you feel --"Will I ever be good enough." That's what narcissistic mothers do. I'll check out the YT vid ... thanks - J
MegaSpace - I agree with you - you are so right. I agree, they do get their energy by controlling and dominating and it is an addiction. I also agree
it's also spiritual issue without a doubt - that's a real good point. Since they all lack the ability to feel genuine empathy and sometimes they
have to pretend by mimicking people who have genuine empathy and compassion, I think there is probably also something wrong with their brains
hard-wiring (congenital birth defect, early brain damage, genetics) in addition to the spiritual component. Not 100% sure though. But, you also bring
up a real good point about the upbringing and family environment as well.
In any case, they will do nothing to enhance or enrich our life ... nothing.