reply to post by KwisatzHaderach
Most women go for smooth talking men that make money, lots of money or at least enough to give them physical "security".
They also go for a man that thinks he is God's gift to the planet, some call it "self confidence".
Marriage, children - Once you put that ring on her finger, she owns you. Once you give her your seed and create a new life, 50% of your bloodline,
she will own your baby.
My oldest son got married to a beautiful "show piece", he didn't think with the head on his shoulders (most men don't).
For 8 almost 9 years we have fought just for the privilege to be semi-included in our grand daughter's life.
My son gained weight and became undesirable to his ex wife, she took off and hid with our grand daughter for three months, then filed for divorce and
has played nasty games using our grand daughter as a pawn ever since to get back at my son. She is a tortured soul, having come from a sad and
unloving family background.
Kidnapping, no, the child according to the laws in our state belongs to the mother. Only in very rare cases does the court ever allow the child to
remain with the father.
Sadly enough, many young men tell me, they wish I were 40 years younger, and I'm not a beauty anymore.
My second son watched his older brother go through a divorce from hell and us shell out $28,000 in order to just be able to see our grand daughter and
decided to "swear off women" forever, he has ceased dating.
Now that being said, not all women are bad. I would suggest meeting one either at school, work or some group and not a bar. A bar is the last place
to meet a woman, (in my humble opinion).
Maybe volunteer at a homeless shelter, a library, some kind of charity work?
Funny, a rock star with a drug habit and attitude of a jerk or old, wrinkled billionaire has more chance of landing not only a beautiful but even a
nice wife (look at Valerie Bertinelli) than a nice regular, good young man like you.
I have been married for 38 years to a really super, wonderful, honest, nice, gentleman. What are the three qualities I looked for? (My grand
daughter asked me this question, "Why did you marry grandpa?)"
I replied, "He was honest, intelligent and kind"...................those were the three qualities I would not compromise on. Looks are so not
important, you can always see a plastic surgeon. My husband just happened as luck would have it to be tall, thin and quite handsome with eyes the
color of a summer blue sky..............he is now 67 and aging very well, still even more handsome than the day I met him.
I met him the first day we moved to a new city (I was living with friends after suffering years of abuse by my sister and her husband's family).
When I met my husband, he helped me move my furniture into our apartment. Afterwards he invited me out for pizza and we talked about where we came
from and were we were headed, what we both wanted out of life.
After that first night, after he walked me home and said good bye - I knew, if he had came back and asked me to follow him to the ends of the earth or
beyond, I would have.
We started living together two weeks later, and I never was like that with any other man, ever.
If and when you meet that special someone, a someone that you know is honest, good and kind - don't hesitate, don't let them slip though your
The next morning J came back and told me he really liked me a lot, maybe even loved me because I was "special". I told him that I never felt this way
about any other man before, I was scared and confused. He said, "We'll give it as much time as we need but I feel the same way too."
He is not the most romantic person, doesn't talk much, doesn't have to. He treats me like Cleopatra, even after 38 years, 3 sons, weight gain, weight
loss, I'm cranky, not the easiest person to live with but I'm honest, loyal, hard working and compromise.
Why are you single?
Possibly you aren't getting out enough.
My husband met me because he heard his friends (we were in a small commune) moving to his city and he came to welcome us and help us move
in.....................he and I met and that was it.
He was college educated, very intelligent, not a smooth talker but HONEST TO A FAULT, a really honorable person. I think he is handsome, my
girlfriends say he looks a little like Prince Charles
Our society here in America (only country I can speak about) is raising a bunch of princesses, girls that want to be like Hilary Duff and Britney
They look for guys like the vampire or werewolf in Twilight.
Not realizing they are passing up the quiet, shy, nice guys..............their loss.
My husband said he wasn't much in demand, few women found him desirable - again their loss and my gain
Because my husband at 67 could still out do
many men in their 20's - he is still quite full of energy, still intelligent, still honest.
Be choosy, don't fall for anyone less than someone who will stick with you through thick and thin, who is honest, kind and loyal.
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