reply to post by KwisatzHaderach
OK lets break this one down... I was a lot like you in school....just female...and not bi--but pansexual...my credentials are I left school and been
blissfully married for almost 5 years, so mabey knowing that, you can trust my advice!
tips I have for You:
1) You can be true to yourself without revealing your sexuality upfront-- now I am not saying lie to women, but I can admit the first things that run
through a women head when she hears that is bad, wether it be mental images of you and another dude doing naughty things or that thought she could get
cheated on/left for a male, now that would be embarrassing! That's double the competition..she now has to be better than men and women to keep you!
Also you have to remember the genral population still has a huge stigma against the gay/bi community, fears of AIDs or HIV are still strong today,
wait until the 'i love you state's to let this cat out of the bag...
2) Nice guys are nice most of the time, biology a girl will always wanna [snip] the jerk? why does she Wanna be with the dirt bag? Think tribes and
early human history, those Are the guys that survive, that challenge the tribal cheif. but wait there's hope You don't have to be a jerk all the time!
just...lets say 10% of the time...even if you just say something shocking or being mildly deviant in bed (wips & chains) or play grab-ass do something
to keep her on her toes, or give her a reason to come back for more!
3) you say you look but can you eat good....women like men who can eat! try it! Impress a girl (if she's on a diet or not) to go out and eat a cheese
buger or some junk food! she will love the fact that she can indulge with a Guy!
4) Clothes don't really matter but mabey you can take up a hobby the laddies will like if your so worried, tie-dye or knit..its easy fun relax and
will give you some flare, or a conversation starter ie. nice scarf 'thank you made it my self'
other than That use your confidence, women still like to have you make the first move (its a gender roll thing I guess) and be more open to different
'types' of women, you might be really happy with a tomboy, a chunky girl, a chef, ect.
good luck on your journey, go find you a lady!
edit on 30-3-2012 by Gazrok because: edited censor avoidance