Ok ladies I need your honest opinion on why I am single. I have read many of the other threads on why nice guys don't get dates, but none of the advice portrayed my situation. This might get a little long, so bear with me because I want to give the clearest picture.

I'm 19, 5'10, 130 and have a very lithe toned body structure. I have short brown hair, and dark brown eyes. I rarely get angry, due to my jovial outlook on life and good nature. I dress very atypical to most people, in that I wear a sixties band shirt, bell bottom whitewashed jeans, and a pair of converse. I have been raised to be a gentleman, but to not take abuse from others. I am a very, cool and collected person, albeit slightly idealistic. I have been told I have a great sense of humor, and I am very good a making people laugh. In school I was not one of the popular kids, but i was pretty cool. I regularly talked to everyone from the preps to the nerds, and helped bring many of the students together, and helped get rid of the hierarchy in school. I know women find me attractive, ( at least to a degree) and I am capable of talking to them in most settings. As a sophomore I asked out a senior in the middle of the lunch room, surrounded by her friends, so I know I don't have a confidence problem. I take rejection with grace, and try to still be civil and courteous. One thing I have to do when I find myself attracted to somebody is, I have to get to know them, before I make a move. I understand that this next part scares some women I like; I am openly bi-sexual, but prefer women. Yet my experiences with the opposite sex have been to say the least horrible. The first girl told me to call her, but she never answered her phone and actively avoided me after she said yes. ( she came on to me) The second girl strung me along for two weeks, then told me, she was dating someone. (unlike other two was a very sweet person, very shy and reserved) The third girl literally was what could be considered a deamon and ripped my heart out, and played me for six months also ruining a great friendship along they way. ( this is not all of them only the important ones.) Having learned many things since then I have come to a standstill of not being able to attract any woman's notice, no matter how hard or little I try. In conclusion please ladies tell me what is wrong with me? Why can't I get a date ?

Not a lady

You're either really ugly or a bad lover.


Or you have a bad attitude...

You are trying to hard. Plain and simple. Coming across as as the type of person that HAS to be in a relationship is unattractive. When you reach a place where you don't care if you are in a relationship or not people will find you more attractive. I figured that out when it seemed like when ever I was in a relationship, or had just recently ended one and wasn't ready for another, I would get hit on all the time. When I was actively looking, nothing.

Are you sure you want a date?

I'm not being rude, please understand. But in your post you admit to being openly bisexual, then you describe some very painful experiences with women. Perhaps you are still uncertain about things? Just a suggestion.

Here's my advice. You're 19. Let life happen. Be yourself- you sound like a fun guy to be with. Sometimes we find love when we aren't even looking.

Myself, I married someone who makes me laugh. Usually I laugh with him, sometimes I laugh at him. Either way, he's a lot of fun to be around. We were friends first, then it grew into something more. Do you have female friends you enjoy being with? Maybe that is an idea to explore.

One more thing. I never dated much in school because I was painfully shy. I used to believe I was destined for a life of loneliness. Now I'm happily married with my own family. So don't be to hard on yourself. You never know who's right around the corner....

treat her like one of your friends, be playful, engaging, challenge her.

take a leap of faith and be yourself is what I learned, with the confidence of your last thread of course lol.

also I think you need to stop playing victim, it's not attractive. IMO.

thats it. you're smart, wtf do you need us for, I got good advice from YOU! lol.

Originally posted by CaLyps0
Not a lady

You're either really ugly or a bad lover.


Or you have a bad attitude...

edit on 25-3-2012 by CaLyps0 because: (no reason given)

Your avatar seems to describe you. Dont be mean, he is just reaching out for advice, no reason to attack.

Post a picture (:

Dude listen to my advice ^. If you try and be her friend thats what youll be...her friend! Dont listen to that sh*t!