reply to post by Bluesma
Nope, and apart from getting the reading up and running I generally ask for no feedback at all. Confirmations yes, but people ask to tell me things
to elaborate, but it is CRITICAL to me this information is not given and that I have no cues, or hints. That way, information is as clean as
possible. Early on, I found people became excited and told me things I was just about to write!! This is HUGELY frustrating. On the occasions I do
them nowadays, I set a calm, quiet tone - where I will speak, they will listen, I may ask occasionally obviously - whether they can take a specific
name or situation, but YES or NO etc is all I expect in return. This is unless I am asked by the visitor specifically, as that does happen as well
from time to time. You must be fluid and flexible, some reads are really clumsy, others deftly discreet (like my last one), the fact it was discreet
was a perfect reflection of the visitor, and merely accentuated the information and how it was delivered.
Also, in that regard of having spoken to people (sitters) prior to a reading (usually, there are no clues it will happen), it has been generally
quite briefly. When this DOES happen, I try to steer clear of information I may actually know, or if that is impossible, I make it clear I obviously
already know said information - but that it has a relevance or bearing upon the reading. Mostly I have found visitors to be exceptionally clever in
getting around this pitfall however, and delivering information I may already know, in a way that is different to my understanding, and 'under the
radar' if that makes sense (if it doesnt, try sitting here lol!).
An example of this from a recent reading was a lady, whom related a career to a random person in a soap opera - not only had I specifially named a
close family member this person did not know (generational), but itwas from a person I already knew about and wanted to avoid (but couldn't, as it
was her) - but she had disguised a message, using a television show and these characters. Wish I could elaborate more, but I cannot - needless to
say, there was NO ambiguity for the sitter, but I had no clue what it was all about. That is the ideal read - leaves me totally confused, and the
sitter in NO DOUBT as to who it is and what their message is. (Apologies if that last part if confusing, without revealing names/business owners in
question etc, it is very difficult to explain)
Returning directly to your question though, obviously, there are times that I am speaking to someone that I have spoken to a little - in fact that is
usually the case, as people dont just knock on my door or have my phone number etc and go "oh hai, spirit reading please"
- but during the
reading as I say, I do not need a physical connection such as voice, vision, pictures etc. Everyone works differently, but as I differ as a medium in
that I wait for visitor/sitter to align and I simply fascilitate - I feel it is not the same as "career" mediums who may need those extra tools, to
make a connection or put a call out on their behalf. I most certainly do not.
I myself have only ever given 1 or 2 face to face reads and never on the phone, and I felt massively uncomfortable - as when I actually speak, it puts
me off. Typing, silently, alone helps ensure total focus and as strong a connection as possible with zero interference from what a 'sitter' may
WISH to hear.
Hope that makes more sense than I think it does! Please feel free to ask more, if you need me to clear any of that up